Is it normal to not like people you hang with but do anyway?

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Most times that I hang out and spend time with a few friends at my usual sports bar, I think to myself "I'm tired of this and need better people".

It's not that they're bad people, it's just the same crap all the time. Same stories, to the point if I wrote down the flow of conversation beforehand, I'd be right every time, same relationships up and down for the same reasons, same "other guy" who stops in and, while not a bad guy, is weird and talks about odd stuff to us and staff. And one woman who's just rude at times. I'm tired of all of it, yet, put up with it for now.

I've been thinking of cutting back going there, saving money, and going to the city every few weeks instead, but..Feel bad about ditching people. IIN? Thoughts?

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  • TheHolyButter
    5 years ago

    I do that. It's probably because I'm scared I'd be left completely alone. And I don't want that, since now three of us buddy girls are officially friends, whatever that means. One of them is a bit low key, doesn't convey everything to me as though she doesn't trust me, the other is overbearinhly emotional, they're intelligent girls, but they don't talk about anything remotely interesting, it's just boys and their crushes. Sometimes dirty talk about sex. It started off well. But now...
    I however put up with them. Because I'll be alone without them.
    I however suggest you be friends with them, while maintaining your own identity. They dont need to be a very important part of your life, but everyone needs a support system, and that's important. If however, they're depressing and sucking the life out of you, kick them out of your life as soon as possible. Boredom however, shouldn't be a reason to completely ditch them. Make some new friends though

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    • Mehereok1
      5 years ago

      It's not so much being alone, as I honestly don't mind sometimes, it's mostly tired of the same people and same conversations. Last night, I went to a chain place to eat, somewhere I hadn't been in, based on the new staff and benches outside, about a year, and had a great time. Full meal, different people and conversation, didn't stay nearly as long as I do with the others, and came home. In other words, how it should be.

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  • leggs91200
    5 years ago

    It is normal. We get in a comfort zone. But yes, after a time with the same people, the same conversations happen over and over. Just look at social media or forums for proof of that - People say and do the same boring things over and over.

    So at that point if one still wants a social life there are two choices -

    Hang out with the same people and have the same interactions that always happen. But at least you are comfortable.

    Or

    Try to find new people where you are the new person, hope for acceptance, try to learn what is going on, and everything be awkward for a while.

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  • lordofopinions
    5 years ago

    If you don't enjoy their company anymore then by all means change things. Go to the city once in a while if that is what you want to do. Sitting in a bar and listening to the same drivel all the time is wasting your life.

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    • Mehereok1
      5 years ago

      I do agree with you, however, it's certainly not every night, and there are times when it's expected I'll go, and decide to stay home. Was sick a few months ago, for 8-9 days, so didn't go anywhere. When I did go back, one guy who didn't know I was sick, said "What, you left us?", to my response of "What, I'm not allowed to have the freaking flu?".

      What's funny is, before I met up with one guy who's now my friend, I didn't go out every Friday night. I'd like to hit the city every few weeks if I can. More fun, different people, more options..

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  • cipro
    5 years ago

    Thats normal.

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