Is it normal to not have sexual feelings tword my current bf but do with ex?

I never had sex with my ex, but just recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend. I'm 19 years old and I never got arroused by him during sex. He does not turn me on or anything. I can get turned on by men but not by my b/f. Is this normal? Could me not having those kinda feelings for my b/f be becouse he could only want sex out of our relationship? My ex never pushed the subject and always respected me enough to wait until I said I was ready. But since I had sex one time in my life with my b/f, it's all he thinks about. I dont know if it's normal for me not to be sexually attracted to the guy I am dating but I am with my ex. Is it healthy to stay with someone who cant give you that pleasure, when you decide its time and that your ready? Or could it come in time?

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  • Your relationships & events seem out of step with your feelings.

    I'd suggest that given how you feel, (not aroused or turned on, and pressured too) further sex with the bf is out. Since he is expecting sex, you are just going to have to be clear with him & put on the brakes.

    How far you want to put on the brakes beyond no further intercourse is up to you. You might want to consider whether you want to have a single steady bf (him or someone else); or, be just dating a number of boys (circulate, enjoy & get to know yourself more w/o a lot of relationship baggage); or, just take a break from boys all together.

    Whatever you choose, do put yourself in the driver's seat. You need to be the one in charge of what you are doing & when so it feels right & you feel good.

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  • Like Hitler - an impotent coprophile

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  • it just means you're a slutty skanm

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  • Not normal. Go find someone you can be aroused by.

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  • You should fuck your ex.

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  • Emotions can play a big part, but it just means he sucks in the sack! Wait until you have mind blowing sex with someone you care about, I promise you're in for a treat. Btw break up with this Boyfriend and get back with your ex!

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  • Holy Cow, this sounds EXACTLY like what I'm going through! Seriously, the only thing that differentiates your story from mine is the fact that you're 19 and I'm 22. For me, also, though, I'm attracted to my boyfriend and he turns me on when we're not sexually active but when we are, I get turned off because I feel like he's all about sex. Lately though, we have been having sex only on my call when I'm horny so maybe you can give it a few more shots and see where it takes ya.

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  • I wouldn't carry on having sex with him if you dont like it. I know many say sex isn't everything but you can still be friends. I'd say this isn't normal and you should get out of your relationship, not just to have sex you enjoy, but just to not keep doing intimate things that dont turn you on. If I imagine myself having sex with someone who doesn't turn me on I think it would absolute mess with my head and even effect the sex I have in the future.

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  • One of my bestfriends had that problem she was head over hills in love w this one guy then broke up w him and was with this other guy he kinda pushed her to have sex so she did and once she did she hated it she didn't understand what the big deal was then she did it again and again and loves it but at first this guy she had sex w didn't please her or anything she hated sex now she loves it and they do it all the time maybe you need to try it some more w ur current bf that's what she did so maybe it will work for you...

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  • I would say not normal. If u weren't attracted to him why did u do it? I'm sorry but it sounds unpleasant. Ifbudont feel that way it can cause probs later. Sex is part of any close relationship. If u are not attracted then it can ruin things. But it may come later, if u haven't been together long. If it doesn't come then maybe u should think about ending it. You don't wanna stay with a guy who can't turn u on because he will want sex and u wont

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