Is it normal to not have a "type" when it comes to attraction?

I have noticed that with every guy I've been attracted to, none of them really shared any distinct physical characteristics. When asked what I find physically attractive or what my type is, I really don't know. I just know that when I'm attracted to a guy, I am. It is never a "love at first sight" thing for me and I rarely find guys I don't know attractive. The ones I've been attracted to are usually just normal guys that I don't develop attraction for until after I get to know them, then they become attractive. It's usually if we really click, but I still can't put my finger on the difference between a guy I enjoy talking to but am not attracted to and one I am. I really don't know what attracts me.

Is It Normal?
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  • You may be attracted to specific behaviors and not physical traits. A good example of a behavioral trait to be attracted to is stability. That is one behavior that more people need to be attracted to.

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    • I think so. I can't really put my finger on what exactly it is though besides a nice personality that clicks really well with mine (still can't figure out what makes that click).

      Stability is an attractive quality. Especially after my past two relationships, so are maturity and responsibility.

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      • Those are things that should be accomplished before the 30s not optional.

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        • I agree. Unfortunately, I'm in my mid 20's and run into a lot of people my age who still act like teenagers and are completely immature and irresponsible in every way.

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          • Very true because the world now likes to coddle people from cradle to grave. By the way, when you learn such traits in the 20s, that's even better.

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  • You're just more into personality traits than physical ones is all. That actually says a lot about your own personality. Good on you.

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  • Chemistry...... duh.

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  • Your approach is entirely sensible, although most people are obsessed with superficial appearance and conforming to this week's consensus on social media about what's attractive, so you're definitely out of step with the times we live in.

    It's possible that Kim Kardashian might declare tomorrow that Pomeranian turd pendants the latest trendy accessory and the herd would go along with it, but a polished dog turd gilded with 24 carat gold is still a piece of shit. And a buff guy who conforms to all the arbitrary rules a woman might have about what an attractive guy looks like can also be a piece of shit.

    Many people have preferences when it comes to sexual and/or romantic partners, but it's not uncommon for those to not matter at all if they happen to encounter someone they mesh with on a deep level. Those who insist on never considering anyone who doesn't conform to some ideal template are really just making life more difficult for themselves, since they're limiting the possible field of potential partners.

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  • I'm the same, as soon as I really get to know and like a guy, it doesn't matter to me how different he is appearance-wise to the previous, I'll be totally into him :)

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  • Man I've been single my whole life I have a rough idea of what I would want in a girlfriend and every time I review the thought it's ALWAYS the psychotic ones. Opposites really do attract huh.

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  • Normal. I don't really have a type either now that I think about it.

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  • Maybe your type is more of personality than looks?

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    • I definitely think so. I just can't find a specific trait besides just having a nice personality that clicks really well with mine (can't really put my finger on what makes them click so well).

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      • Sounds like you're more into personality, than looks. There's lots of good looking people out there with great personalities that don't necessarily conform to a so called type. It's good that you don't objectify other people.

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