I'm in the same situation with both of my parents. They were both verbally, psychologically (there is a huge difference between that and verbally) and physically. They were fucked up people that cared for me, but had many problems of their own and constantly fucked with my head and beat me. They divorced, and my Mom blamed me, she beat my ass relentlessly and when I would flee the house she called the cops on me, even though I'd never laid a finger on her.
I moved out right after I finished high school. They admit to fault, my Mother tearfully apologizing to me. I forgive her, for it does seem as she has truly changed, and she was really just a messed up person in a messed up relationship that was unable to control her emotions. My father, he is mental, and he can't help himself. I am having a hard time forgiving him although he apologized, he continues his behavior and only proves to me that he is too self-absorbed to really give a damn about anyone else. Maybe I'll forgive him someday, but until I learn more about how people like him can be, it'll be difficult.
IIN to not forgive a changed parent for abusing you as a child?
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I'm in the same situation with both of my parents. They were both verbally, psychologically (there is a huge difference between that and verbally) and physically. They were fucked up people that cared for me, but had many problems of their own and constantly fucked with my head and beat me. They divorced, and my Mom blamed me, she beat my ass relentlessly and when I would flee the house she called the cops on me, even though I'd never laid a finger on her.
I moved out right after I finished high school. They admit to fault, my Mother tearfully apologizing to me. I forgive her, for it does seem as she has truly changed, and she was really just a messed up person in a messed up relationship that was unable to control her emotions. My father, he is mental, and he can't help himself. I am having a hard time forgiving him although he apologized, he continues his behavior and only proves to me that he is too self-absorbed to really give a damn about anyone else. Maybe I'll forgive him someday, but until I learn more about how people like him can be, it'll be difficult.