Is it normal to not feel accomplished when your lifes dream has been completed

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My life's long wish was to save someone's life and now a woman has said she is only alive thanks to me, and many others have thanked me for helping them.

I have always dreamed of helping people, and saving their lives. Recently I have been going on a site where people go to find help to try to help people there, and as I'm writing this message I am trying to help one guy who is in love with his underage sister and hates himself for it and a girl who thinks she is a monster because she thinks that she is a pedophile.

In the past my dream was to save someones life and now that someone has told me that I did just that and I felt very very happy because I really really like that person and if she did kill herself then I would have been so so very upset and I wouldn't know what to do. I'm glad that shes alive, but I just don't feel accomplished in my roll of that, in fact I feel very selfish right now because im only helping those 2 ppl right now when I can say another 3 on that help site.

This story was NOT to boast about me helping people, that's far from it, I just feel concerned because I had that as my life goal, and now I accomplished it...I don't feel better about myself and I have no more goals on this planet and i don't know what to do... is this normal? have other people completed their lifes goal and just not felt accomplished?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    Well it was a goal, not a life goal. So make some new ones.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago | pl

      Well it's been the only goal of mine since I was 14 I can't find another goal. Theres nothing else i want to do in this world but i don't feel accomplished in my life.

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  • dude_Jones
    10 years ago | pl

    Your dream became a reality. If it felt good, do it again. If it didn't be happy you have time to find a better dream.

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  • DVS_BSTRD
    12 years ago | pl

    What you're describing doesn't seem like a goal that should be considered a life goal at all. Saving a life is more of an accomplishment than anything; something to check off the ol' bucket list. The only way you're guaranteed to save a life is to be in a career field that focuses on the protection, health, and well-being of others. Waiting or looking around for a life to save is not the way to go about it. For you to say that you have no other goals is unhealthy and I'm afraid that yours will one day be the life that needs to be saved. You're dealing with the deep emotional issues of other people and that eventually begins to wear on you, especially once you begin to feel like you're not doing enough. Psychiatrists help to keep themselves emotionally detatched by thinking of what they do as a job only. The same goes for doctors, police, soldiers that have to eliminate potential enemy threats regardless of age or sex, etc. Life's all about setting new goals to challenge yourself with everyday because they give you a sense of pride and accomplishment when you acheive them. How about setting a personal goal to go somewhere you've never been or see something you've never seen. The world is so small yet there are an infinite amount of amazing and beautiful things to see and experience. Most of us take it for granted, but I guarantee that once you learn to pause and take it all in by looking around and seeing just how much of a gift it is that you're actually here to experience this world and your life, you'll want to see more of it and you'll create more goals for yourself.

    As for saving lives, it's seriously not your job because, honestly, you really have no say so in the final decision. Help somebody when you see they need help, but do not make it your personal mission to save them because those you can't save will always take a piece of you with them until there is nothing left.

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  • peaceoflove23
    13 years ago | pl

    save another life, ur honestly telling me that saving 1 life was ur lifes dream, u have very good intentions, and we defenately need more peole like you, but the fact that ur sad that that dream is over also means u have no intention of doing it again, think about it. If u stumble upon the opportunity to save someones life again. Will you take it again?

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    • pringletot5
      13 years ago | pl

      This is the person that wrote it...

      @peaceoflove23

      I'm actually trying to help someone on that same site as i type this...I still do try to help people, it seems harder now though, I do have the intention of helping others and I've had more than that one person saying I saved their life.

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  • Jen118584
    13 years ago | pl

    So keep on helping people! Can't have too much of a good thing :) Don't lose sight of your own needs, though.

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