Is it normal to not ever want to be over someone?

In the winter of 2016, my boyfriend of a few years passed away. Obviously, it was very hard for me, and it still is. It’s been of course over a year now since it happened, and I still feel the same. I still love him. Of course I do.

I’ve tried to pursue other people and such, but I’ve always ended up pushing them away because of my own guilt. I feel awful. He died while we were still together, and I don’t think I can bring myself to move on.

I feel as if it’s going to be like this forever. The last thing I want in the world is love, but everyone is always trying to set me up and I don’t want it. I always push them away and end up hurting them, and it hurts me as well. I don’t want to do that to them, but I also feel too guilty to pursue anything with them.

Is it normal to feel like this? To feel guilt and never want to pursue a relationship again? Or am I just holding on too long? Some advice on how to work with grief would be helpful too, because it doesn’t work too well for me. I know I don’t need to pursue a relationship, but this grief is affecting so much more.

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  • lordofopinions

    No guilt. Living and dying is a part of life. You will have to deal with death several times in your life. It's never easy.

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  • lordofopinions

    It's normal to feel this way about someone you love has passed away but at sometime in the future you will have to move on. You can't live like this your whole life. If you need more time to grieve then do so but realize that at some point in time you will have to move on. It will take time and be a slow process. Good luck.

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    • itsace

      thank you. I know one day I have move on, and I just don’t know when it’ll be. I want to move on more than anything because I know that’s what will be good for me, but every time I do I just feel the guilt manisfest itself in me, it’s really awful. But thank you so much again :)

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