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not to be edgy on here or anything but i genuinely won’t care if someone left me, like if they were the most important person to me and they said they don’t want to be apart of my life anymore i wouldn’t care that much. i’m seriously thinking that my morality is fucked up
The second I think someone doesn't love me I lose all care for them, I felt that way when my dad stopped seeing me, all times I was dumped & when my mom started stealing from me to support her drug habit (which only stopped when I got physically violent <the stealing that is>) I will not love someone who doesn't love me, It's as if all the good times never happened.
Unfortunately, I felt that way in my last relationship. I actually felt relieved when it ended and didn't miss him at all, which I felt pretty guilty about, but I guess it was a sign that we were a poor match and not meant to be, and definitely not in love. Perhaps it depends on whether you've fallen for the person or not? No matter how much I tried with this person, I just couldn't.
I can be like that, but moreso for people that I haven't truly accepted into my heart. It's easier, because thinking they were great turns out to have been a presupposition
I've also had people I did care about that I've turned away from. This is trickier, because I want to accept or start to accept that who they are is good for me. I accept their honesty. I accept their support. Their feelings become real to me.
But ultimately things progressed as they did and we both see our perspectives as valid. I try to understand mine well. What did I do that contributed to that, what did they do, what were our mentalities/psyches like at the time? I examine this and my feelings on it, like if I feel morally just, if it's possible to admit fault.
Sometimes there are people I can resolve to be okay with not knowing anymore. It happens. This is one way I see people as like flowers or gems. There are so many variables on the bell curve, like varieties of flowers and crystalline structures, there are bound to be people I like and find interesting and those that don't appeal, some better, some worse.
Sometimes its better to be like that. People will always leave, regardless if it was intentional or not. Being heartless saves you the trouble of being hurt at the end of the day.
Well then you havent found the one yet. The one will make you feel like you were amputated when they leave you.