Is it normal to not care my best friend was sent away?

Basically my best friend tried to kill himself and got sent to a mental hospital really far away. But I don’t care and I don’t miss him. I also blocked him on all my social media stuff. I’m really mad at him too. I just don’t care he’s gone... is that weird??? like I’m not hurt or sad or suffering. I just don’t care.

He was a little emotionally abusive. And his suicide threat was in response to me telling him i need space. He also blamed me for feeling the way he felt (when he was going to “shoot him self”- I don’t think he actually was personally. It was the third time this year he’d gone to such lengths). Next thing I know, he’s sending me pictures of his gun and bullets and I’m calling the police. But now that he’s gone I don’t care... it’s weird. I don’t miss him. We spent every day together and I don’t miss him, I actually don’t want to see him. He also lied a lot, and I know he was a bad friend but I guess I didn’t have anyone else to turn to (I have major depression teehee). So I stuck with him. Anyways, is it normal that I don’t care he’s gone and I don’t miss him?

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93% Normal
Based on 14 votes (13 yes)
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  • Notderanged

    You say you don't care but your original post says "I'm really mad at him too." If you're mad, you must care. Good luck living in denial.

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  • noid

    I didn't read all the comments but to me it sounds like he wasn't your best friend, just someone you humg out with by default. There is a big difference.

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  • ilovecrossdressing

    theres no way this happend this literally happen to my friend last month wtf?!!?!

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    • How are you holding up? How do you feel about it? I’m glad there’s someone else going thru the same thing...

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      • ilovecrossdressing

        He was my best friend so im sad and all but at the same time im happy hes not gonna kill himself.

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  • nikkiclaire

    It's hard for me, really hard to say this, but as a suicide survivor it's normal for you, to be pissed.

    I tried to commit suicide in Aug last year. I did a pretty good try but it wasn't enough.

    I was sent up for around a month. It was the best thing that ever happened to me. I have since found love, gotten married, started a business.

    Please do yourself and your friend a favor, withhold judgement, until he gets out.

    Mental illness is the same thing as a physical one. It can be fixed.

    And no it's not normal that you wouldn't care. We both know you do care, cause you wrote this post and it bothers you, all the events. Hang in there. I am very sorry some of us got to that point to kill ourselves. It is selfish to the extreme.

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    • I’m glad to hear you’re better now (I’ve never attempted suicide but I’ve came close more than once). but no, honestly, I don’t care. like, at all. I’m just an extreme hypochondriac and am terrified I’m a sociopath and that I’ve been living a lie or whatever. I honestly just don’t care at all, I’m almost glad but I’m not.... idk. It feels wrong to say. I obviously care that it all happened. It’s quite traumatic, to be honest. But I don’t care that he’s gone, I don’t miss him, and I don’t think I ever will.

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      • nikkiclaire

        Then I would look in to sociopathy. 😕😕

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        • fuck

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          • nikkiclaire

            I mean, you don't care at all, no feeling, is sociopathic.

            If you care only about your own feelings, you are a narcissist.

            If it's just really hard, and it's too much to confront and bear, you are sort of normal.

            If you be a friend and support them, you are normal.

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  • Boojum

    It sounds like a major source of stress in your life has disappeared now, so I think it's not at all surprising that you're happy the guy is gone.

    You may have your problems, but he sounds like a pretty screwed up person, and it also sounds like the chemistry between you wasn't positive or life-enhancing for either of you. If you're able to draw a line under the whole thing, that would probably be for the best.

    You did the correct and responsible thing by calling the cops in response to his suicide threat. Consider that your final act of friendship. Hopefully, he'll start to address his problems where he is now.

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    • nikkiclaire

      Wow. Compare my answer to yours. Geez booj. Harsh.

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      • Boojum

        From what the OP says, the guy's suicide threat was an act of aggression against him and this was just part of a history of abuse.

        I completely understand that suicide often is the result of feelings of utter despair and hopelessness. But it is also the case that sometimes suicide is the ultimate "fuck you", and it's not uncommon for controlling people to see suicide threats as just another card to play.

        I've been in a pretty dark place a few times, and I've had suicidal thoughts, but I've never made threats or tried to pin the blame for my thoughts on someone else as the OP's "friend" did. It sounds to me like what he did was controlling and aggressive and nothing to do with genuine friendship.

        You're right: the OP's former friend might be able to sort himself and his life out. It's also possible that the OP might be able to address his issues and move to a better place. But these two have history now, and even if they change their attitudes and approaches towards life, I think it would be very easy for them to slip back into negative patterns if they got together again. From what the OP says, I question if running that risk is really worth it.

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        • I agree. I don’t think I can relapse into something that ruined me, or risk my recovery by being his friend again. Thank you both though. Muy appreciated.

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