So what got you interested in the first time ?
Myself I have to have an attraction there of some sort to be interested in her. Just because she can suck a golf ball thru 20 ft of garden hose doesnt mean I'm suddenly attracted to her.
We had been friends for a couple years and we started talking a lot more. We got along well and we have fun when we’re together. I don’t find it hard to do relationship things like kissing etc but I don’t feel attracted to him physically. I think he’s kind of ugly and I feel bad about it because it’s shallow but I don’t think I can change how I feel.
I know how you feel. I dated a gal a bunch of years ago and it was alright, but then, and this really sounds shitty for me to say, but the faces she made when we would have sex, it was just a real turn off for me. I tried looking past it but I just couldnt do it. Even tho she is probably the 2nd female I dated that was actually ok with me being a crossdresser. That in itself would have been reason for me to stay, but i just couldnt. We went our separate ways and she got pregnant from her boss and had a kid. And I havent seen her in years.
So to avoid getting to a point of almost disgust, why not tell him you need to go your separate ways. And if you find that you miss him then maybe you do like him more than you really think.
I suggest that you read the book "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. There is a teenage version if that is more age appropriate.
Is it just his looks, or something more? Is there a real possibility this could work; or not? This book should start you figuring that out.
Normally, I suggest that a couple each get their own book and both read it. My wife and I did prior to our engagement and it made all the difference in the world and allowed us to really build true love between us; and it rates as the 2nd most significantly influential mentoring book that I give to people looking to improve their lives.
In my mentoring (charity and professional) often present a selection of 6-8 books on different subjects and allow them to chose which one they are most interested in. The 5 Love Languages is commonly chosen as a lot of people have relationship issues.
Based on feedback "The 5 Love Languages" is the 2nd most useful/influential book that I normally give out.
"How to win friends and influence people in the digital age" by Dale Carnegie and Associates is the most useful/influential book based on feedback. Note that the older version "How to win friends and influence people" is also effective (and available in something like 60 languages around the world).
IIN to not be attracted to my boyfriend?
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So what got you interested in the first time ?
Myself I have to have an attraction there of some sort to be interested in her. Just because she can suck a golf ball thru 20 ft of garden hose doesnt mean I'm suddenly attracted to her.
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I don't think it's that shallow.
I know how you feel. I dated a gal a bunch of years ago and it was alright, but then, and this really sounds shitty for me to say, but the faces she made when we would have sex, it was just a real turn off for me. I tried looking past it but I just couldnt do it. Even tho she is probably the 2nd female I dated that was actually ok with me being a crossdresser. That in itself would have been reason for me to stay, but i just couldnt. We went our separate ways and she got pregnant from her boss and had a kid. And I havent seen her in years.
So to avoid getting to a point of almost disgust, why not tell him you need to go your separate ways. And if you find that you miss him then maybe you do like him more than you really think.
I suggest that you read the book "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. There is a teenage version if that is more age appropriate.
Is it just his looks, or something more? Is there a real possibility this could work; or not? This book should start you figuring that out.
Normally, I suggest that a couple each get their own book and both read it. My wife and I did prior to our engagement and it made all the difference in the world and allowed us to really build true love between us; and it rates as the 2nd most significantly influential mentoring book that I give to people looking to improve their lives.
In my mentoring (charity and professional) often present a selection of 6-8 books on different subjects and allow them to chose which one they are most interested in. The 5 Love Languages is commonly chosen as a lot of people have relationship issues.
Based on feedback "The 5 Love Languages" is the 2nd most useful/influential book that I normally give out.
"How to win friends and influence people in the digital age" by Dale Carnegie and Associates is the most useful/influential book based on feedback. Note that the older version "How to win friends and influence people" is also effective (and available in something like 60 languages around the world).
I wish you the best with this.