Is it normal to masturbate to..

Are you saying that you've never had sex with your boy friend? Only mutual masturbation?

We've been together a year. We've had a lot of sex. I'm saying i watch lesbian porn when I'm playing alone. Without talking to my partner.
But when I am talking to him. And seating. He'll send me recordings or well facetime and I'll watch him play with himself. And he'll watch me.

Yeah, it's totally normal, OP. There are things that turn you on with regard to a partner that would otherwise be grotty. You know, when you are intimate with someone whom you care about, stuff that would be gross with strangers can become a turn on (like blowjobs).

I dated this guy, whom I had a bunch of phone sex with, and I have to say, it made my sex life a lot better. I was never too shy about what I wanted in bed, but I was also never comfortable going into graphic detail about my fantasies- I actually never put much thought to exactly what my fantasies were, and exactly what I would want, step by step, until I had phone sex. Verbally conceptualizing things makes you more open, and as long as phone sex isn't all you have, I say go for it.