Is it normal to kinda want sex, but not want to put any effort into getting it?

Like ya know ( or maybe you don't) I feel like I want to have sex sometimes but the idea of going through the trouble of finding a girl i'm attracted to, taking her on dates,maybe buying her a few things, open up emotionally with her, telling her stories of life, listening to stories of her life, ect. ect .. E>C>T.. just doesn't feel worth it sometimes.

sometimes it just comes your way and you find a great lover and the effort doesn't feel like work because you have love, other times it just feels like so much effort... maybe I'm just lazy, like its not thAt much effort... but it commonly feels to be enough to make me feel like "eh...i don't really need to have sex rn or maybe ever again " is it normal

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Comments ( 29 )
  • RoseIsabella

    Maybe you're content, and happy as a single person without any entanglements, expectations or obligations?

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    • Ya there it is, Hot damn cold smacks callin' me turkey you win gold

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      • RoseIsabella

        Well, thank you very much! I truly appreciate your response. ☺

        I guess it's takes one to know one. I think some people on this platform think that I'm prudish, or possibly even asexual, but truth be told I'm a heterosexual woman who is happy being single. It's not that I'm am entirely devoid of desire, but that I am content in my solitude.

        The chill, content single person inside me recognizes the chill, content single person inside you, bows to it, and honors that part of you. 😉

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        • truth be told you always win gold rose! Somewhere out here in dover ;0

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          • RoseIsabella

            Thanks!

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        • McBean

          That explanation made sense to me, and I appreciate the time you spent writing it. I'm starting to see why your world is so different than mine.

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          • RoseIsabella

            Well, it's not really an explanation, because I have never felt the need to explain myself. I'm really just relating to OP.

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  • I guess the idea is not to just try to get sex but to wait until that person you feel like doing it with does come along. It's good that you're not like so many men and so obsessed with sex and just using women so they can get laid. I think your mindset is far healthier. Most men behave like animals.

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  • WeirdDudeFromTheSouth

    Maybe try NoFap. When I'm not jerking off every day I tend to be more into being with women

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    • RoseIsabella

      You're married, so you could just be with your wife.

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  • mauzi

    Ya I get you, but kinda the other way around. It's too much work/risk to become comfortable enough to do that with someone, for too little reward, personally. But you sound young, you might change your mind in the future. Also you don't necessarily have to do all that romance stuff if you just want sex.

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    • Doesnormalmatter

      Sounds like blasphemy to me! But if I could stop being so horny I would so good for you I guess.

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      • mauzi

        Yeah dude it's weird, but it kind of makes sense - if someone can get sex easily (more appealing looks than personality) it's not as special / important to them, and if someone can be loved easily (more appealing personality than looks) then sex is more special / important to them.

        But then most people have an average or higher sex drive so that kind throws the whole theory off. I can't see the appeal of fucking someone that you dont truly love, but it seems that's how lots of people do it. :[

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        • Doesnormalmatter

          That's me mate. I don't see how married people or those in commited relationships only stick their dick in one pussy. I would get bored probably pretty quick. I have good looks and can get hook ups often enough for me, but like you said, that makes sex less special for some people, But not me!

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          • myfreakinopinion

            Word.

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          • mauzi

            Ya, that is pretty normal especially for a guy, just means you have a higher sex drive than some. That is why Im surprised about this OP since it sounds like a guy (talking about girls). Seems more likely that he is young where his sex drive is still undeveloped.

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            • Doesnormalmatter

              I know right. Like how is it not worth sex to just be nice and care about a girl for a little?

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  • SKDM007

    get a sex toy, there when you want it and when you dont

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  • Cutie12345

    It’s called a hookup.

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  • SkullsNRoses

    Go to Amsterdam and hire a legal sex worker? Then you’d get sex without emotional entanglement. Whether this would be financially possible depends on how close to Amsterdam you live though.

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    • ya i've been a few times in my younger years, not as sex tourists though, although i did partake a few times lol

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  • McBean

    Dude, don't waste your emotional energy. Get a friend with benefits. Here's how: https://m.wikihow.com/Start-a-Friends-With-Benefits-Relationship

    If you don't have the energy for that, just buy a blowup doll.

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  • Doesnormalmatter

    That's what hook ups are for mate! Be glad you aren't super horny like some of us who have to jump through those hoops to get laid.

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    • WeirdDudeFromTheSouth

      Ever try nofap? It makes you lose your mind. Ive never been so horny in my life until i lasted 1 week on nofap. I was dangerous.

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      • Doesnormalmatter

        No I have never tried nofap, and never will. That shit is a fucking scam secretly made by religious cocksuckers who want people to feel "purified" or some bull shit like that. I would rather die than go 6 months like that. The early twenties male homo sapien is an extremely sexual being. I don't see how poeple don't go insane on nofap. Are they all grandma's or have they been castrated or what?

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        • well to be fair, nofap for a little while can be nice like a few days, will reset your gears and make it feel even better

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          • Doesnormalmatter

            Yes mate! I 100% agree. In fact, I don't even masturbate much at all. Having sec 2 to 3 times a week does it for me. Any more than that and the quality will probably go down. But the watching porn thing, or at least intentionally looking at explicit images to get off, would also be hard to go without.

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