Is it normal to ignore someone at a funereal?

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Six years ago a guy my son’s age joined a conservative Christian group and told my son not to take the Lord’s name in vain on a FB post. He embarrassed my son and hasn’t apologized.

Anyways, I know his family (who don’t have the same beliefs as him,) and their grandmother died. I saw him at the funeral, gave him a glare, and looked the other direction. I’ve seen him before and refuse to look at him or reply to him when he speaks to me. Somehow it got around to me that others thought I was wrong. I saw him another after time and he refused to look at me. I’ve chosen my stance because I believe he should apologize to my son and didn’t want to speak to him until he does.

But do you think I was wrong to ignore him at his grandmother’s funeral?

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Based on 19 votes (6 yes)

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5 years ago | pl

I think you are wrong for stressing over trivial things

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  I still thinks he should apologize. I’ve accepted the decision to ignore him until it happens.
  
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    5 years ago
    
    Then ignore him. Just friendly advice don't stress over it
    
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charli.m

5 years ago | pl

Well aren't you a petty childish brat?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  Because I refuse to acknowledge his existence until he apologizes to my son?
  
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  - charli.m
    
    5 years ago
    
    Who gives a fuck? For a stupid, pathetic comment he made on fb? You're equally pathetic. Grow the fuck up and get over it. It's not like he punched your kid.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      5 years ago
      
      He’s an idiot and I want to make him feel that way. If he doesn’t want to apologize by now I’ll make him feel like he disent exist, I don’t care what he goes through. I’ll ignore his parents as well. I’m settled on my decision.
      
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[Old Memory]

5 years ago

You both sound like jerks who deserve each other

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artfullypresent

5 years ago

Death is far more of a trauma than ANY fb post embarrassment your son could have been affected by. Thus, the situations cannot be weighed equally, when considering cliches like "you get what you give". At the very least, I feel the guy deserves respect for what he's going through, and ignoring him is the most classless thing to do towards that end. Death of a loved one is never easy to deal with.

I say let bygones be bygones

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  He’s never apologized and until it happens I don’t care what he goes through.
  
  He’s a freak, he joined some Christian group because he’s gay. Nobody has ever liked the loser. He’s not worth anybody’s time. I hope his life gets worse for all I care.
  
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Ellenna

5 years ago

You do realise holding a grudge for so many years isn't affecting him, only yourself? Let it go .......

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  I still want to ignore his exsistance, he hurt my son and I’m done with him, I don’t care what he goes through.
  
  And nobody’s ever liked the Bible-thumping idiot anyways. It turns out he joined because he was gay (he seemed to be a hyperactive guy that others would mock). No wonder he’s gay, what girl would ever like someone like him?
  
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RoseIsabella

5 years ago

Yeah, that guy sounds like a bunghole, but you're not helping yourself by holding a grudge against him. Honestly, when someone tells me to watch my language I tend to ignore the person for the most part, but I did actually try to respect my relatives who took me in for a couple of month last fall. My relatives are fundamentalist which I certainly am not. I made a conscious decision to respect them, in gratitude for their kindness, and out of my love for them.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  He’s a loser who turned out the be gay, no one liked him in the first place.
  
  I want to make him feel belittled, I don’t care what he goes through, he doesn’t deserve any good. No wonder the idiot turned to a cult for understanding, who else would have helped him?
  
  Everyone used to mock him behind his back, he’s nothing in the first place, and that he wants to humiliate my son on Facebook, I have no respect for him, none. He has nothing going for him and I want him to realize it. And now that he doesn’t want to apologize, I’ll turn my face the other direction when we cross paths.
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    5 years ago
    
    Well, I don't think there's anything wrong with a person being gay, but I'm not accusing you of anything here, because there are plenty of losers and jerks regardless of whether they're gay or straight. I guess the whole gay thing is just another piece of this dude's story.
    
    Yeah, I don't know this guy, he must have some serious issues of self loathing if he's gay, and joins some weird fundamentalist church. Maybe he was trying to pray the gay away? I dunno, but whatever his deal is he probably has a lot of personal demons with which he wrestles on a regular basis.
    
    I don't see anything wrong with just ignoring the guy, and giving him a dirty look like you did. I can't blame you for holding a grudge. Honestly, if a person is truly offended by others taking God's name in name in vain you would think that they'd know right from wrong, and bullying people is wrong! Yeah, that ole boy ain't right, he's got some issues.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      5 years ago
      
      He’s defently off.
      
      Though most don’t seem to care that I ignored him at his grandmother’s funeral, others did, because he saw her die and has another dying grandmother who helped raised him. So what!
      
      I just want to treat him as if he doesn’t exist, and too be honest, I take pleasure in it!
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        5 years ago
        
        Hmm... Well, let me percolate on this one.🤔
        
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        5 years ago
        
        And I don’t have a problem with other gays. I was just mentioning the fact he joined his church place because he admitted he was gay, and it was not acceptable to live his life as a homosexual.
        
        He does have nice parents, I don’t know what happened to him, as does nodbody else.
        
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Boojum

5 years ago

You weren't at the funeral to give your respects to the Bible Thumping jerk, so why should you suddenly be all nicey-nicey with him?

There's a hell of a lot of hypocrisy surrounding death and funeral rites.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  Agreed - and I think others should understand this as well
  
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