Is it normal to have visited them after all that?
Hi guys
2 years ago, my parents separated...thankfully. My father was emotionally abusive and was jealous of my mom and paranoid. He kept falsely accusing my mom of infedility and did many bad things to her.
He kept asking for another wife, but when he couldn't get one, he tried to make her look like a cheater. His family (who are the stuck up religious sort), did not want to be involved. They once or twice contacted me, but after they started to downplay our situation, I stopped talking to them.
I became depressed for 2 years and my studies suffered. His family kept blaming my mum and I (who were alone in all this) that we are not visiting them. Once we were not at home and they came and they make this a huge story. My father does basically nothing financially for us and he did a few handy works for my moms new house so I agreed to go see his family. He worships them and treats us like shit.
His family is very annoying, the adults that is. My father wants me to play with my cousins who are 10 years my junior (I am 21). Furthermore they have all his familys love and attention. No one even celebrates my birthday there. I just want him off my back so I visited. His family always treated my mom and I like outsiders and were jealous of us.
I somehow feel like they are happy. The kids say they love me but I still have resentment and I dont like that family at all. I think I will only keep in contact now and then. I told them to visit me from now on - its way overdue. What do you think?