Is it normal to have to stop masterbating just before i reach an orgasm?

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Ok, so I have recently properly started masterbating (virgin, oh and I'm a girl) I find the way that gets me going it massaging my clit, but while doing it, and getting excited, my whole body tenses, sooooo much, and I have to stop because its almost overwhelming. This means I have never had an orgasm this way. I literally can't go on, I hold my breath and everything. I realllyyyy want to orgasm, and I also love masturbating, but am really struggling to achieve it. I've tried other ways of masterbating and none others are right (some are downright painful). I kinda get to a stage where i'm going really quickly and holding my breath, but just keep on getting excited, nothing ever more. Afterwards i feel a bit exhausted.Please help!

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  • Seadra
    10 years ago | pl

    I'm the same way so I got a massaging shower head so that I can stimulate myself even when my arm gets tired or I'm too overwhelmed/ tensed. You need to lay down (I have a bath-shower so I can and that way I don't get as tensed) and if it feels overwhelming then just rub yourself then use the shower head again

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    10 years ago | pl

    Hi, thanks guys, but sometimes it gets to the point when my arm is so tired, that's when I most struggle! Any tips??

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    • ccjigsaw
      10 years ago | pl

      Sound sliek you have to be more turned on?

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    • 1000yrVampireKing
      10 years ago | pl

      Try using a toy. I do think they make special pillows with dicks on them you can buy. They also have some interesting dildos. So try and buy some and maybe your hand wont hurt so much.

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  • BHolt
    10 years ago | pl

    If you badly want to experience an orgasm (if you haven't before), if you can, get a friend to masturbate you. Agree before-hand that they are to not stop, no matter how much you object to it being overwhelming. If necessary, be prepared to have you hands tied to prevent you from being able to stop them.

    I know this sounds very extreme, but I have done this for a female friend before. She was in the same situation, and was starting to suffer depression. She got desperate and this was the best solution I could think of at the time. She agreed to it, it worked, and over time she has learned to push herself past the point where she feels overwhelmed and keep going until she cums.

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  • quentari
    10 years ago | pl

    Perhaps massage gentler? If you can hold on for that moment longer you'll probably orgasm instantly

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  • Energy
    10 years ago | pl

    I always like to finish what I've started. All it takes is practice. And remember to breathe! Just force yourself to go through an orgasm. And you should get use to it. But then it won't be as exciting the better you get at it.

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