Is it normal to have this quiet anger towards my family?

It's normal, but maybe you should let them know about it a little at a time. Also, let it out a little at a time. Get a punching bag and a dead pig, and go to town! (Punching bag = beat the sh!t out of. Dead pig = Bring a knife/baseball bat/anything that would ruin a punching bag)

Holding on to it all will not end well. Trust me on that. I got lucky that I only ended up in a mental rehabilitation facility(Loony Bin). Don't make my mistake of never letting anybody know. If they don't care, go to town on your punching bag/dead pig. Don't hold on to it, and don't do anything you might regret.

Yeah your lucky with the parents, my mum got it but we lost her and dads pretty crook now but, never got it anyway, that's where they get it from.
I've had a lot of issues privately with most of them since I returned,their oblivious to it though. I doubt most things would even cross their mind. Yet we've had our hands so full that I don't even understand why I give a shit anyway to be honest, especially with what I get for it.
The families changed since I've been away though but maybe me just not being around to realize the changes,live through them, I dunno so it really surprises me though. They use to be totally different b4 I left - but we're all older now and have families and lives, I dunno, Maybe it's just progression.
One brother I lived near to interstate never visited or sat down for a beer just the two of us once in three yrs. Then he'd turn around and say I was the only one he was close too- what ! Pretty typical too when I drive 4hrs for a Christmas , drag my family away yet get there and none of them even seem to realize or worse still give me some shit-which I blow off. It needs so much more space than this little box but anyway .

I've had issues with mine to in a similar way ever since I got back 3yrs ago after living interstate for 10yrs.
But I haven't gone there as yet, whenever I dio see any of them it's usually just for a few hrs after a 4hr drive so I more want to just try to make the most of the day at the time.
But each time I do come away feeling their absolute shallowness,total unawareness and lack of any real family attitude , like look out for each other or help when you can, it just sort of makes me sick and is really disappointing.
I do hope though to get the chance bit by bit to sort of go there with some of them when my lifes back on track , maybe visits with more time , one on one.
But the other question is , do I even bother , does it even matter now. Maybe we've just all grown up and had families of our own anyway and it doesn't matter anymore/ Still working through that angle.

You really should speak up. I had to deal with someone who died last month. She was a horrible person. I never said anything because I didn't want to cause waves on my husbands side of the family. Well, alot of good it did me. She died and left everything to her niece. She was my step mom in law. She didn't like us because we were not of the upper crust. My husbands father kept everything within himself and the she-wolf mentally castrated him. I guess blood only matters if it's her blood line. My husbands father and step mom didn't have kids of their own. My husbands real mom died years ago.

So, take it from me, SPEAK UP!! It will eat you up and fester. I lost my chance to say things. Don't lose your chance.

Peace

Bottle it up, and just as they have gotten as close to rock bottom as they can get, unleash it all

I once considered killing myself because of all the shit my family gives me. Just spend more time with your friends than w/ ur family and you'll be way happier

I could rip my family to shreds for what they've done but, ultimately, they're just normal people and people are selfish. I need to deal with it better. My problem, not theirs.

Maybe they don't even realise how much they upset you, if you don't show any reaction? They might even start to push the boundaries more and more to test you.
So you should really start to stand up for yourself. You deserve to be treated with respect and dignity just as much as everyone else. You should not have to sacrifice your own happiness and wellbeing for the sake of apparent harmony and peace. Don't put up with it and bottle up your emotions

Deal with it. They're the only family you have and you are probably too sensitive.