Is it normal to have sex with someone whom you are not officially dating?
Okay. So I haven't engaged in sexual activity since my very first partner (of two years) and I broke up. He had cheated on me on several occasions which made it difficult to trust other men. Due to being in such a committed relationship, the "single life" wasn't doing me too well. It has now been a year since the break up and I've found myself bouncing in and out of flings, never truly committing. After many flings failed, I found someone who seemed more interesting and allowed him in. He was not a virgin and has been with a couple girls, not many but from his actions, I had an insight that all he might want is sex. I did my best to keep my distance, however, he found my vulnerable spot and I ended up having sex with him. We aren't officially dating but we have spoken of the subject. I'm not sure how I should percieve the situation. I like him but I don't think I like him enough to have sex with him yet I did. I'm not even sure if a relationship is a good idea though I now feel obligated. The worse part was the sex wasn't even as appealing as I remember it before. I do understand that it had been a while for both of us so that may have been the cause. It felt impersonal whereas intercourse with my past partner held some sort of emotion that made it special, I suppose. Was this my frustration begging to be answered or what...? Could I create that great sexual aura that I had prior? Should I feel guilty? (I don't exactly feel guilty about doing it, just guilty that I let someone in so soon). And most importantly, what should I think of this guy?