Is it normal to have no pride?

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The person I loved the most in my life told me very bluntly to stay away from them. We haven't spoken for months and it seems they are disgusted by me.

I have a clean conscience and know I didn't do anything so serious for them to hate me. Even so, I can't hate them and would go crawling back if they changed their mind.

I have no shame to admit that pride has no place in love. I feel like trash and have been crying a lot but would do anything to be at least their friend.

I needed to vent.

Thanks for reading.

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  • EccentricWeird
    6 years ago

    Maybe it's not "pride" but just "avoiding the same shitty mistakes"?

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  • bubsy
    6 years ago

    Of course you have no pride: your source of validation is outside of yourself. You've placed it on this other person, which is a common but big mistake in relationships.

    You need to have a purpose and direction to go in life that doesn't involve anyone but you. It's what keeps you feeling in control of your life during tough times.

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    • EccentricWeird
      6 years ago

      Dr. Bubsy

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I fell for a liar and a hypocrite. I wish I could unlove her.

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      • EccentricWeird
        6 years ago

        I fell for a liar and a hypocrite who was 10x cuter than your lying hypocrite.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          You don't know that. My girl was hot and very pretty. Great in bed too since I'm submissive.

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          • EccentricWeird
            6 years ago

            I do. My ex was the cutest creature in the known universe.

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      • bubsy
        6 years ago

        You're a guy? Google "No More Mr. Nice Guy pdf" and read it. It'll make sure this situation doesn't repeat itself.

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        • The_Great_Flatuloso
          6 years ago

          Are you getting residuals from that book? Every month you recommend it to someone.

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          • bubsy
            6 years ago

            Every month? I'd say it's closer to twice a week. And if you actually googled it, you'd realize the first link is a free copy in pdf form.

            Go ahead and get curious. You don't have much to lose.

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          • EccentricWeird
            6 years ago

            He's just a nice guy... getting other guys to not be nice guys, thus reducing his competition.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    You need to love yourself before you even think about romance. Sorry, I know that sounds harsh, but it's true.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      You're right but I feel like crap.

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      • RoseIsabella
        6 years ago

        I'm sorry, sugar. I know it ain't easy, but you've really got to care for and tend to yourself first! I'm relatively sure that you're very vulnerable right now, so it's imperative that you not rush into another romantic entanglement regardless of how much you might feel that's what you want. You need to learn how to identify toxic people so that you can avoid them. You also need to perhaps work with a therapist, and or maybe go to Codependents Anonymous. It's essential that you understand that some dysfunction, perhaps from your family of origin, is causing you to be attracted to and attract partners who are bad for you.

        Checkout this website:
        http://coda.org/

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          Thank you. I will check it out.

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          • RoseIsabella
            6 years ago

            You're very welcome!
            :-)

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    Pride doesn't have much to do with love but it sure does have much to do with you as an individual and it's of equal if not moreso important than love when Ita mature pride.

    Just because you love someone doesn't mean you forget that you're worth a damn.

    She/he doesn't want you. Accept that but don't let it beat you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I feel bad but I'm moving on.

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  • e51pegasi
    6 years ago

    Yes it's normal & can empathise with you. Your post is eerily familiar.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      It's hard. I know.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    6 years ago

    In my case we weren't dating. No reason was given to cut me off completely. We were arguing and boom. She vanished.

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