Is it normal to have never been in a real relationship for a 23 year old girl?

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Alright, here goes it. Iam 23 and I have never been in a real relationship. I have had a total of two boyfriends, both were in high school. One of the barely counts at all because he came out of the closet after high school and we were mainly just friends. The other was just some doucher who mainly just tried to get "my V-card".I have not had a boyfriend since I was 17, which was 6 years ago.
I am pretty shy and insecure but I am not ugly. Actually, I am pretty. Over the past year I lost about 50 pounds and look and feel much better, so you would think I would have a hot boyfriend. Besides my being a chub-chub and not feeling at-all comfortable in my own skin, I was also head-over-heels for my best guy friend for the longest time. He never loved me back and it was a complete waste of time. I thought I was so inlove with him that I didn't even care about other guys.
Now I finally lose weight and feel that I am 'worthy' of male attention, but my group of gal pals have had some falling-outs and have went separate ways in the past couple years. So I am left with one real friend, who has been my best friend since 5th grade. The only thing is, we have grown completely apart throughout the years. We are nothing alike and have little in common and she annoys the hell out of me. This makes it hard to ever feel the urge to go out for a 'night on the town' with her in hopes of finding a guy because she likes to get wasted and becomes an obnoxious loud drunk.
I have friends at work, but none that I hang out with outside of work. I just feel like such a loser, like I hear about people I graduated with getting married or having children (which I DO NOT want any of thoughs things any time soon) but I just feel really behind. Not only because I never have really been in love, but that I don't even have friends or go out and have fun like other people in their early 20's.

I actually LOVE being home and love my homelife. I still live at home with my parents, which again, is probubly another thing that is not normal about me. My mom is like my BFF and our house is nice so I enjoy just chillin with the fam after work. But I think I need to get out before I end up an old maid.

I just don't know what to do. It's like I am becoming accustomed to my lifestyle. Like, I have never had a boyfriend, so now it is becoming this normal thing for me not to have one so it's like I don't even care any more. And I am used to staying home any never going out so I have become accustomed to being a total hermit. I don't know if it was my parents divorce that just completely gave me some kind of fear of ending up with the wrong man, or if I just vain. But I am extremely pickey when it comes to finding a guy to date. I don't want to end up like my parents. DO YOU SEE HOW SCREWWED UP I AM?

lol. oh well. I still love my life.

but...

is it normal ? ? ????

p.s. incase you haven't figured it out yet, I am still a virgin. -_-

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    Chapter 17....
    Christ on a CRACKER you ramble too much girl! There's your problem!

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  • mary82
    4 years ago

    Nope, not normal... but guess what? my first kiss was at age 29 (dude was drunk as fuck), and my first relationship EVER (different guy, of course) started when I was already 33, and 4 years later we are still happy together. So, yeah, do work on your self, have fun, take chances (carefully), and you'll be fine :)

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  • anonymous9250
    10 years ago

    Hey at least you have dated I have been told many times that I am bbeautiful and pretty ect. By people I recently meet or by random people and I have not ever dated even in high school

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  • tehfoxyfire
    11 years ago

    uuuuum yeah. like the first guy said u talk a little just a little too much girlfriend.!:) but it might be just me i like to keep things concise and on point.

    u seem pretty happy though.

    normal: to live with parents. nowadays with this economy its been shown that more and more college graduates are living at home

    not normal: being a virgin. be honest here. are u, like, scared of penis? some females are! lol no really

    as long as ur not the crazy hermit type who stares out the window at ppl as they walk by or performs horrific scientific experiments in ur basement, normal:)

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  • SillyKitty55
    13 years ago

    your young. go out to high end bars with high class people or friends. and i am sure you will meet someone wonderful
    its normal. there are always some people who just have never been in a real relationship.
    i am sure you will find someone special one day.

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  • LlamaFace
    13 years ago

    lol I have just been called a cracker, hahaha. But anyways, thanks for posting guys. :D

    @ CommonSense:

    I am actually neither of thoughs, so I suppose I am not normal. Anyways, Kathranis just pwned you, embarrassin'.

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  • regane
    13 years ago

    I think it's awesome that you like being home and not getting trashed with yir mate. Trust me you are a gem that all us guys are secretly trying to find. It's easy finding a total slag out on the piss... But your species is the one we really really want. The only advise i can try give is that you need to be patient, you have good values and the right guy will find you. It may not be today or tomorrow, but one day trust me you will find it.

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  • sheyne8203
    13 years ago

    I can totally understand where you're coming from. You are not screwed up, you just live an independent life without the "need" to have a man. You haven't found someone worth dating, but I know he's out there somewhere for you. You're normal, at least from my viewpoint. Things will change, you'll find someone when it's time. Enjoy your life and things will fall into place unexpectedly. Some people put too much pressure on virgins in their 20's when it's none of their dang business. Any baboon can have sex.

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  • Comm0nSense
    13 years ago

    if you're fat or ugly yes normal

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    • Kathranis
      13 years ago

      @Comm0nSense (44577)
      You're a twat.

      To Original Poster, I think it's normal, it sucks a lot, but I still think it isn't normal. I'm in exactly the same situation, and there's just not much to do about it, as a recent poster said, things will probably fall into place unexpectedly, try not to worry.

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