Is it normal to have mixed feelings about making out?

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When my boyfriend and I are making out and he's kissing me and playing with my boobs and stuff, in one way it feels really good. But in another way I almost don't like it cause it makes me feel weird and uncomfortable. Like it gets a little hard to breathe and I feel really really tense. It's almost like something is about to burst inside me and I wish it would just go ahead and do it because I think the waiting for it to happen hurts worse than the actual explosion would. I feel my heart beat pounding in places other than my chest and I want to squirm around and scream, but I don't cause I don't want him to feel bad. It's not so bad if he just gives me a few quick kisses, but when we really get into it I can hardly stand it sometimes and after I come home from being out with him I'm awake half the night cause I just can't relax.

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  • Cymbalism
    8 years ago | pl

    You might just not be ready for all that, either with him or in general.

    You should talk to your boyfriend about this. You should be able to be open with him about this sort of thing.

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  • gloryholeflasher
    8 years ago | pl

    You sound like you're on the verge of an orgasm. Maybe you just need to go a little farther! Something is about to burst but it's only going to affect the nerve endings that feel pleasure!

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    • tinkertoy
      8 years ago | pl

      You might be right, it's not that I'm anxious like other ppl said, it's more a physical thing. He never touched me down there csuse were both Christians and were raised to wait for marriage for that, but that area is where I feel a lot of the tension and uncomfortableness.

      If that's the case I'm not sure what to do. I love my boy but we aren't ready to get married yet and I don't want to do anything that would hurt God or ruin me for my husband when I do get married. But I am getting tired of being so frustrated all the time. I'm thinking masturbating might help but again I'm afraid of doing something sinful. And everybody is saying I should tell him how I feel but I'm afraid of tempting him to lust if he knows I'm struggling with it.

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  • pyrofox
    8 years ago | pl

    Well first off talk to him, he probably has picked up on your elevation of stress but just continues cause he knows you enjoy it. Or you verbably tell him to continue he's probably aware as you are of making out. But as a guy it's only more confusing when a girl says her opinion later. Like after a session of making out if a girl says " you were to rough" or etc. it's worse than if you just would have said the same thing before the making out session. Guys are generally the nice ones are cosiderate as girls to make changes. Everything with dating is COMMUNICATION

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago | pl

    "It's almost like something is about to burst inside me..."

    https://youtu.be/LsD6AL3HJtM

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  • deshikd
    8 years ago | pl

    If it makes you that anxious then you should really talk to him about it. If he's a nice guy, he should be able to understand.

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