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I've had 31 sexual partners from the age of 15 to my age now of 21. It's obviously above average and I feel very ashamed about it sometimes. I've always been safe about it and I am STD free, but I still feel like it's wrong. IIN?
Personally, sex is sacred for me. I can't get intimate with someone unless I've known him for at least 6 months, and even then sex isn't guaranteed.
But, I don't have a problem with promiscuous people whatsoever. It's your body. If you are emotionally stable and sex is just sex for you, go for it. Numbers shouldn't matter, just wrap it up or become the pull out king.
If you have sex with a bunch of people and then cry about it and it affects your life negatively, then that's not the lifestyle for you.
Although, at 15, I don't think most kids are mature enough to be having sex.
Why so many? Did you enjoy it, care about the person or just do it because it made you feel wanted? I guess I'm old fashioned but my body is not a piece of junk I put out for any trash man who comes along. It obviously bothers you so maybe you should be a bit more discerning in the future.
People voting 'not normal' aren't necessarily judging the person negatively.
Normality tends to be based upon commonality. The norm - the usual.
Some people voting will vote no because - from their experience - most 21 year olds haven't had 31 sexual partners.
I voted 'no' precisely because of this. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with having that many sexual partners at a young age, I just don't think it's normal (the usual).
So maybe take a couple of deep breaths and let your blood pressure settle...
We're not all puritans, we don't all need to "grow up".
You think my comment had a patronising tone? You just told us all to 'grow up' :P
I used the word 'some' in my comment. Some. Some meaning an amount less than all but more than none.
I'm not saying nobody here is negatively judging OP for sleeping with 31 people at 21 years of age - I'm saying some of us are voting on the basis of normality = commonality, regardless of morality.
Which is one reason (not the entire reason) for this story to receive a 'below 50% normal' rating.
My roommate my freshman year of college had slept with over one hundred guys.. I kid you not she had a new guy stay the night in our tiny dorm every weekend and sometimes weekdays. I would introduce myself and be nice to these guys but I just stopped like she had way too many sexual partners to remember there names or faces. I got familiar with her fake orgasm moans and real orgasm moans...
In the novel Gentlemen Prefer Blondes, the heroine Lorlei has an interview with Sigmund Freud. She says to the reader that Freud said he had never before met a girl like Lorlei who did everything she wanted to do In the end, Freud tells her to cultivate a few inhibitions and get some sleep. It's a thought...
Guess I'll say it again. Got deleted and I've no idea why.
You'd be livid if she slept with an 18 year old when she was 17? What's the fixation on the age 18? A four year difference between minors is the standard psychologists consider molestation, and most statutes forbid consent.
Most girls lose their virginity to older boys. I did. That makes you livid? I dated many college boys when I was in high school. Don't regret any of them.
She said she had started at 15. If she was 15 and the men were 5+ years older than her, fuck yeah it's an issue. I didn't think I had to get so damn specific. I don't give two fucks who you dated but if you were 16 and banging a 21 year old, homeboy was in the wrong. That much I know I made clear but if you're looking to be sensitive about your lifestyle choices, you're doing a great job.
Where did you make it clear you were talking about a 5+ year difference?
"If anything, I'd be livid if any of those guys were older than you or over 18. At the guys, not you."
I seriously didn't mean to offend. Seems so easy to do here. I just thought I'd offer another perspective, but outsiders are obviously unwelcome.
I've been reading for about two years. Finally got up the nerve to join in. Every single time I have disagreed with the norm, I've really angered people.
Seems it's not for me to do.
I know. Welcome to the internet. Guess it's not so welcome unless you pander to the elite within a group.
I didn't make it clear because I didn't think I had to. I already stated that.
I don't know who this elite you are speaking to is, but it surely can't be me. You can't possibly have been reading here for two years if you don't know by now that the only sexual morality I truly believe in is the enforcement of the law of consent.
I'm offended, yes. I'm offended that you would assume from my comment that I legitimately question the morality of the minor if there is an adult involved and said adult is not within the law. Even the morality of my sexual experience could be questioned by more conservative individuals but it was legal nonetheless.
I don't have anything against you, but you need to get how liberal this site is, in the end before you accuse people of being puritans, and I'm saying this for your benefit. It's not normal to have that many sex partners at 21 but it's not morally reprehensible against her. Most people here feel that way. Normal and acceptable are two diffferent things.