Is it normal to have feelings for two people at once

I have very serious feelings for my long term partner and petty feelings for an online friend. They're both different genders from eachother, I don't know if that's a part of it. I'll never let either person find out and I'll never act on the petty feelings. I feel like a monster.

Is It Normal?
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  • It's normal to have a crush on someone while in a relationship. You're doing just fine by not acting on it. No need to feel like a monster.
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  • Even couples that are happily married and madly in love can still experience attraction to other people. Your overall sexuality doesn't stop just because you've found the one. Having control of yourself and being faithful so you don't end up cheating is the only important part. Since you said opposite genders, I'm assuming you're bi. I'm also bi and have liked people from both genders at the same time. I've never considered myself weird for it.

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  • Sometimes having feelings for someone else is an indicator for what you really want in your current relationship.

    For example I had feelings for another person due to them making me feel more passionately. This person obviously had feelings for me and told me a while back. To imagine what it was like to be dating him instead made me feel guilty, yet left me feeling amazed. That's when I knew that something was missing from my current relationship. I told my significant other something in our relationship was missing and we fixed it.

    Is there a trait this person has that made you feel for them, or could it be due to their gender? That is something for you to figure out.

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  • It's not and if it's just an online person you never met the feelings aren't real and most likely you are bored in your relationship.

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  • Normal and nothing to really worry about.

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  • its called human nature

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  • very normal .

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  • Very normal.

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  • Normal.

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  • Nope youre the only person in the history of the world to ever have feelings for more than 1 person.

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