Is it normal to have developed a certain sex drive so quick? (masturbation)

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So, I'm a virgin, and my sex drive was never an issue up until recently. I never felt the need to engage in any sort of sexual activity until I had my first boyfriend. About two to three weeks into our relationship, we started (or at least, he did) getting a bit more touchy (second base-groping), and we would 'sext' I believe almost every night. At first, for me, it was just to get him off. I was flattered at the fact that he found me attractive enough to masturbate to, so I wouldn't mind helping him out, I guess. But once we hit the month marker, I started finding our conversations hotter (which, believe you me, they were definitely getting hotter), so much to the point where I did find the need to masturbate.
Now here's the thing, I'd only done it once in my life before this first time in years (six years ago, give or take), so I didn't know what I was doing. I stopped for a couple days, but another conversation caused me to return. Since then, I've spent the last month masturbating almost every night, even though our relationship almost two weeks ago and conversations ended a week ago (it was a mutual break-up, we're still friends that still say, "I love you", no FWB).
Is that normal to go from not needing any sexual release to nightly occurences?

*and this is another thing, I've only been doing this for a while, but I cannot bring myself to an orgasm. I do not vaginally penetrate myself at all- I find it uncomfortable, but I rely on pure clit-play with no toys or anything whatsoever besides my fingers. is it normal to not be able to cum this way, and any tips?

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  • TerryVie
    11 years ago | pl

    Well, let me answer with an analogy...

    My first cat, we had in a flat.
    It was very happy, a large flat, lots of love etc...
    One day, she fell down the balcony and landed in the grass below. She was kind of afraid, and huddled up until we picked her up.
    A whole while later, she fell down again while hunting some bird. This time, she looked around a bit and was sniffing and exploring when we were there to pick her up.
    A month later, she "fell down" twice more, and gladly explored her new environment. We eventually had to install a cat door to let her come and go freely and prevent her from "jumping down" herself.

    I think it's about the same thing here. You would not miss that because you never really cared about that...especially if you never had an orgasm.
    You awakened to a new way of sexuality that you never cared about before because you never experienced it before. Now a flame has been kindled and the fire is burning bright :)

    As for techniques: Two of my earliest masturbation "helps" were the shower head and the handle of my electric toothbrush. Clitplay is the right way to go, also it gets easier to "reach there" once you had your first orgasm. Keep going at it, maybe try different stimuli...for some, fantasy alone works best, others want to see something, or hear(possibly even other females), or smell(like a worn T-shirt of your friend). Just experiment with what works best for you :)

    Also, i believe you'll make a great partner someday, good luck with that :)

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  • coolio75650932
    11 years ago | pl

    FIRST COMMENT i didnt read any of it at all i just came here for the first coment GOLD METAL!

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