Is it normal to have both a real and online boyfriend

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Due to the UK’s lockdown measures I was unable to see my boyfriend in person for a very long time and I got very bored staying in my house all the time. So during that time I reconnected with my ex boyfriend online.

I didn’t originally intend to have any sort of relationship with him and I was originally catfishing him pretending to be another girl but when he found out that it was me, he took it surprisingly well and we started talking again.

We have been having some flirty and sexual conversations but he has moved quite far away since we broke up so there is no possibility of an actual relationship.

However, he is very sensitive and over emotional so I have to treat him like a woman and placate him when he gets offended by saying things like “I love you” and “I will never leave you.” So now he believes we are in a serious relationship.

Now that lockdown is coming to an end, I am able to see my real boyfriend in person again but I am planning to still keep the online one as well.

Is this cheating? Surely it isn’t because I don’t have sex with the online one and we barely even exchange sexy pics. Neither of the boyfriends know about each other so what they don’t know can’t hurt them.

I will eventually tell the online bf about it all when I am ready to end the relationship.

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  • litelander8
    3 years ago | pl

    You must be rad in the sheets bc your personality is trash.

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
    3 years ago | pl

    bitches be manipulatin

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  • SkullsNRoses
    3 years ago | pl

    Yes this is cheating, cheating does not have to involve sex. Declarations of love and false promises of never leaving him are honestly messed up, can you think of no ways to assuage your boredom without deliberately hurting people? How did you think this was going to end?

    The only moral thing to do at this point is to break it off with both boyfriends, then abstain from dating until you have grown up enough to realise why this is wrong.

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    • my_life_my_way
      3 years ago | pl

      He is very sensitive and over emotional so everything hurts his feelings and he frequently breaks down crying over very minor things so if anything, I’m doing him a service by helping him toughen up a bit.

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      • SkullsNRoses
        3 years ago | pl

        How will lying to him toughen him up? All you are doing is hurting him and giving him trust issues.

        You are not “doing him a service” at all and I don’t see why you’re trying to justify horrible behaviour that way.

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        • my_life_my_way
          3 years ago | pl

          It will toughen him up by showing him that not everyone is going to pander to his girly and over emotional nature. He claims he is tough and he wants to join the military yet his girlfriend can make him cry and manipulate him into doing anything.

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          • SkullsNRoses
            3 years ago | pl

            Granted he sounds a little delusional, but you dated and broke up with him once before and he’s still “over emotional”. Going through the cycle again isn’t going to help him, the only way he could change would be through working on himself.

            It sounds like you’ve already done enough damage here, it’s time you let him move on.

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago | pl

    You're not a good person. It's like you're a piece of shit.

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  • LOLFanProductions
    3 years ago | pl

    Then again, your username says it all... Why even ask if it's normal even if you knew it wasn't?!

    You're a shitty person

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  • JustAHuman
    3 years ago | pl

    Can you tell you're real boyfriend about it? If not, it's cheating.

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    • my_life_my_way
      3 years ago | pl

      I don’t know how he would react if I told him so it’s best to just avoid the issue altogether. I don’t intend to tell my real boyfriend about it but I will tell the online one when I’m ready for him to get all pissy about it and stop talking to me.

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  • charli.m
    3 years ago | pl

    Ffs...

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  • Kermitt
    3 years ago | pl

    This is a simple question, I'm surprised you haven't been able to answer for yourself.
    How would you feel if your boyfriend was doing the same thing?

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    • my_life_my_way
      3 years ago | pl

      Truthfully I would not care, even if a guy was cheating on me in real life. As long as I can cheat on him back to even the score then everything’s fine.

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      • Kermitt
        3 years ago | pl

        If you feel that way, neither of the guys aren't right for you

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      • Clunk42
        3 years ago | pl

        You claim to be a moral person, yet you say this.

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