Is it normal to have an adult, married sister constantly ask for rides

She’s 30 and married butndisent have her liscense. Our family lives close together. When she dosen’t want to bother her husband she asks me for rides. I’m single, yes, and I’m normally not busy but I hate how she sees me as somebody to go to when dosen’t want to bother her husband.

She’s not always appreciative of the favor. There was a time I had to take her a hair appointment before work and she was running late, she comes into the car in bad mood because she dosen’t like the way she looks (no apology for being late) she’s often miserable because she has low self-esteem.

While I generally like my brother in law, he dosen’t always say thank you. And for some reason I was irked that I had to take to her in-laws house to let their dog out since he was supposed to be at a game but he was home the time I got back

Is It Normal?
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  • Shes a big girl now. Sometimes its bad to keep enabling someone. She should have her life together more at 30. Atleast have a drivers license..

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  • That's weird as Hell! If it were me I would stop taking her calls.

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    • Isn’t it? But I’m evil accorindibg to my mother if i get angry with her for acting this way.

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      • Your mother is crazy, cause you're not evil. It's none of my business, but why the Hell doesn't she have her driver's license yet at 30 years old. She's the one that is not normal in this scenario.

        No offense, but those people sound way too enmeshed for my tastes.

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        • I missed your response somehow but the explanation is given below.

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    • Block that number

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  • i am pretty sure her not being so appreciative means that she is comfortable with you and really likes you.

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  • Why can’t she get a driver’s license?

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    • I don’t even know anymore.

      She was afraid bc she got in a minor accident a few years ago. Plus she’s been catered to for years and I doubt she’d like to give that up.

      I don’t see why shouldn’t get for driving to small places to be convenient to others

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      • You're not responsible for her fraidy cat ass! What she needs is to go to therapy to work through whatever issues she has around the accident, and she needs to take a some driving lessons. One thing is for sure, you shouldn't have to cater to her. If she needs your help she needs to learn to work around your schedule, and have some gratitude!

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        • I agree, but try telling my mother that! Plus my sister “ratted” me out for swearing at her one time, and another when I told her she’s not my responsibility.

          I forgot to mention my drive to work is 50 minutes. So the last thing I want to do is carter her selfish ass. It angers me my family has spoiled her. On top of that dealing with her moods.

          Sorry for the rant but I’m just at the point where I hate everybody around and I feel too young to feel that way.

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          • You should checkout Codependents Anonymous.

            http://coda.org/

            The program has helped me deal with a lot of family bullshit.

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          • I certainly don't blame you!

            I still think she's weird to have never learned to drive. I lived through three car accidents in my youth, and one was pretty bad, but not getting behind the wheel was never an opinion for me. If I wanted to continue to go to college classes, and my little job at a local radio station I had to just continue to drive.

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          • It's definitely none of my business.... but wheres dad in this situation? This seems like something the dad should weigh in on.

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            • Of course the one time I called her “fucking irritating” but she just bags until she gets her way

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            • He coddles her. I’m wrong to tell her no. She’s my sister and I should be patient with her. If I get annoyed I’m not being a gentleman.

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