My cousin has a muslim boyfriend. She hasn't got a religion.
He controls her and limits the things she is 'allowed' to do even in her own home (as if it were his right to have that power over her). He has higher 'standards' for her than for himself when it comes to what she is allowed to do and who she is allowed to consort with and what decor she is allowed to have in her home (again... it's as if he had the right to 'allow' or 'not allow' her to do things). She isn't the person I know anymore. And from what I understand, she isn't happy with it. She just lets it happen, because she loves him, and she can't say no to either him, or her own feelings of attachment. This isn't the life she wanted for herself, and it breaks our hearts as her family to see her not free and not flourishing.
If you are a Christian, even if you don't have to go through the above in the end, you still might have to choose between freely loving Jesus Christ, and loving your guy. That is, whether it comes down to a one-time ultimatum, or a hundred mini-compromises that cause your love to slip away.
My personal advice is, don't put yourself into a situation where the above might happen. Any of it. In life, we suffer losses of relationships. Hearts are strong and they heal if we let them. Sometimes you have to take a smaller heartbreak to save you from a much, much bigger one, and physical, emotional and spiritual harm that could be long-lasting. And as you will also know, if you know God, losing God is of a completely different order to losing a friend or a lover. Do what you like with my advice but I would urge you this: let yourself embrace the loss of this guy, knowing that you are making a proactive choice for your future in various possible respects.
I observed that first hand. I got to talking with a secretary at an office who told me she was going to marry an Iranian. I just told her how nice. 6 months later I went back there and she looked horrible. I got her to talk to me about it and she said directly, "He's a beast". He wouldn't let her wear makeup, see her family, and was insanely jealous of her talking to any men.
Iranian refugees and their families are lovely though. They integrate well into English-speaking churches. I don't think I have ever met one I didn't like.
I’ll agree with that for the most part. I had one who worked for mr that was 1 of the nicest person I ever met. She came to our house for dinner and we very sweet. It seems like all the educated ones left that country.
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My cousin has a muslim boyfriend. She hasn't got a religion.
He controls her and limits the things she is 'allowed' to do even in her own home (as if it were his right to have that power over her). He has higher 'standards' for her than for himself when it comes to what she is allowed to do and who she is allowed to consort with and what decor she is allowed to have in her home (again... it's as if he had the right to 'allow' or 'not allow' her to do things). She isn't the person I know anymore. And from what I understand, she isn't happy with it. She just lets it happen, because she loves him, and she can't say no to either him, or her own feelings of attachment. This isn't the life she wanted for herself, and it breaks our hearts as her family to see her not free and not flourishing.
If you are a Christian, even if you don't have to go through the above in the end, you still might have to choose between freely loving Jesus Christ, and loving your guy. That is, whether it comes down to a one-time ultimatum, or a hundred mini-compromises that cause your love to slip away.
My personal advice is, don't put yourself into a situation where the above might happen. Any of it. In life, we suffer losses of relationships. Hearts are strong and they heal if we let them. Sometimes you have to take a smaller heartbreak to save you from a much, much bigger one, and physical, emotional and spiritual harm that could be long-lasting. And as you will also know, if you know God, losing God is of a completely different order to losing a friend or a lover. Do what you like with my advice but I would urge you this: let yourself embrace the loss of this guy, knowing that you are making a proactive choice for your future in various possible respects.
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I observed that first hand. I got to talking with a secretary at an office who told me she was going to marry an Iranian. I just told her how nice. 6 months later I went back there and she looked horrible. I got her to talk to me about it and she said directly, "He's a beast". He wouldn't let her wear makeup, see her family, and was insanely jealous of her talking to any men.
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I don't like most of Iranians , they are very extremists in their religion,
Especially in this Shiite government
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Iranian refugees and their families are lovely though. They integrate well into English-speaking churches. I don't think I have ever met one I didn't like.
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I’ll agree with that for the most part. I had one who worked for mr that was 1 of the nicest person I ever met. She came to our house for dinner and we very sweet. It seems like all the educated ones left that country.
Your post is very timely. Read this: https://www.cnn.com/2022/02/09/middleeast/iran-teenage-wife-beheaded-intl/index.html