Is it normal to..hate talking to sister on the phone b/c she's rude

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Whenever I talk to my local sister, she either puts me on speaker while she cleans her house or gets ready to go out, or, clearly isn't listening to what I'm saying, and tends to just cut me off. Will say "not to change the subject, but..", showing no interest in my ongoings. I have to hear about, if I may..My lazy, do-nothing nephew, and crazy, unstable college student niece, yet..Most things I say are essentially blown off.

The speakerphone thing drives me crazy, especially when she puts me on speaker and cleans the bathroom. I get the echo effect, so have hard time hearing her. To me, that says..You're not important enough for me to focus on, I'd rather wipe down my sink and sound like I'm talking to (at) you in a tunnel. She'll also call me on the way to the store or wherever, making it seem like she's "fitting me in" while driving or parking. Oops, guy in front of me leaving, gotta pull into his spot.

Yet, when I don't contact her, all I get is "I never hear from you"..Well, maybe if these conversations weren't one-sided and not done from your bathroom or red light on the way to the store, I'd fill you in more on my life. If you even showed interest.

Am I wrong in, honestly, hating picking up the phone when she calls, b/c I know it will be a waste of my time, I won't be listened to, and, will have to hear the same crap and complaints about the kids, her ex-husband, etc? I can predict the order of her complaints, most calls.

I've done a lot for she and the kids over the years, since, and before, her divorce. Have I not earned at least some communication respect? Thoughts?

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  • Justmehere
    7 years ago

    The divorce was his fault, cheating..But as for her being self-absorbed..Yeah, I'd agree with that..

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  • [Old Memory]
    7 years ago

    Cut her off. She doesn't seems to care about you very much.

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    • Justmehere
      7 years ago

      I've had periods of either short contact, or just holding off. I'm self-employed, so busy to begin with. That's another annoyance she says sometimes, when I try talking about what I do. "You ever think about getting a real job?".. I handle damage and worker's comp claims. Including a water incident for her and hooking her up with contractors, insurance people, and fireplace insert company. And she suggests a "real job'? Has no idea about marketing, working for yourself, or being anything but a dutiful, compliant, whatever you say, boss, employee.

      Now that holiday stuff is done, and, no birthdays or gatherings to attend until Summer..I'm off the hook for excessive time.

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  • unseriousness
    7 years ago

    As siblings, shouldn't you be able to tell her how you feel about her calls? Isn't it possible she doesn't realize what she's doing? If you never tell her, she'll never know!
    Maybe your relationship with your sister is different from my relationship with mine, but if I were in your situation I'd be screaming, 'LISTEN TO ME' (I know it's immature and rude, but I'm talking to my sister so I couldn't care less).

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    • Justmehere
      7 years ago

      I'll usually come back to what I was saying or point I was making/story I was telling, after her standard rant about the kids, her health. etc..And, in a somewhat passive-aggressive take, I'll continue working or doing what I'm doing, chiming in every few seconds, b/c I know it's the same crap.

      I get along extremely well with my older sister, but she's not the local one. Not saying I don't get along well with the local one, but, it's definitely more take than give b/t she and I. Just annoys me that, even in person, she's no different. I'll be talking about my business, things that happen during the week or whatever, and same thing.."not to to change the subject, but..". Then it's about her.

      I'll also admit..Sometimes, when my phone rings and it's her, I don't pick up. She won't leave a voice mail, either.

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