I'm going to plug one of my current favorite books: "Come as You Are" by Emily Nagoski, which contains a lot of interesting information on research into female sexuality.
In one section of the book, Nagoski goes into some detail about something called "arousal nonconcordance". This is where physical arousal (vaginal blood-flow and lubrication) doesn't match what's going on in the woman's mind. She cites a study where women watched porn and gave a score to how arousing they found particular clips, while a sensor measured their physical arousal. The two matched only 10% of the time. Women would say they found something arousing, but there were no physical signs of arousal; women would say they found something "meh" or even a turn-off, but their vaginas would be soaking wet.
Vaginal lubrication is an automatic physiological response. In other words, it's hard-wired to some pretty primitive centers of the brain. If that part of the brain decides, "this is a sexual situation", then the vagina lubricates.
Regardless of your opinions about your roommate and your lack of romantic attraction to him, it's hardly surprising that your brain is deciding that rolling around with a man with lots of close physical contact is a sexually relevant situation, and your vagina better get ready for sex.
Is your roommate grown-up enough to understand all this? If so, I bet he'd get a real kick out of seeing how big he can make the wet patch on your jeans, so you might get all the tickling you want.
However, speaking as a guy, I think I'd find it very difficult to just ignore the fact that there was a very obviously aroused vagina very close to me. Tread carefully.
IIN to get wet from being tickled?
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I'm going to plug one of my current favorite books: "Come as You Are" by Emily Nagoski, which contains a lot of interesting information on research into female sexuality.
In one section of the book, Nagoski goes into some detail about something called "arousal nonconcordance". This is where physical arousal (vaginal blood-flow and lubrication) doesn't match what's going on in the woman's mind. She cites a study where women watched porn and gave a score to how arousing they found particular clips, while a sensor measured their physical arousal. The two matched only 10% of the time. Women would say they found something arousing, but there were no physical signs of arousal; women would say they found something "meh" or even a turn-off, but their vaginas would be soaking wet.
Vaginal lubrication is an automatic physiological response. In other words, it's hard-wired to some pretty primitive centers of the brain. If that part of the brain decides, "this is a sexual situation", then the vagina lubricates.
Regardless of your opinions about your roommate and your lack of romantic attraction to him, it's hardly surprising that your brain is deciding that rolling around with a man with lots of close physical contact is a sexually relevant situation, and your vagina better get ready for sex.
Is your roommate grown-up enough to understand all this? If so, I bet he'd get a real kick out of seeing how big he can make the wet patch on your jeans, so you might get all the tickling you want.
However, speaking as a guy, I think I'd find it very difficult to just ignore the fact that there was a very obviously aroused vagina very close to me. Tread carefully.