Is it normal to get married under the age of 21?

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So i am in a relationship and i have been in this relationship for about a year and a half. We have been talking about marriage for awhile. We are both very logical and also quite reasonable.There are really only two things stopping us
1.) we are both quite young
2.) marriage is truly just a social construct
these things being said we plan on AT LEAST having a commitment ceremony. However part of me still wants to have the whole nine yards. Is this normal?

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Based on 11 votes (6 yes)
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  • kelili
    5 years ago

    If you're asking yourself the question maybe ...

    I had a boyyfriend who proposed to me and I was about the same age at the time. He proposed on Christmas Day (the ring being my Christmas gift). I didn't want to accept but then thought that it was a terrible thing to do on Christmas Day so I said yes but felt so uncomfortable about it. We never got married. I felt that he set a trap for me and knew that it would be difficult to refuse a Christmas gift and I still haven't forgiven him for that. I know that I should have said no but I wasn't strong enough, it's also my fault. We never got married but I know that I hurt him a lot by my attitude all the time we were together after the proposal.

    With my husband it was the opposite, everything just happened.

    That said, these are my experiences. Each couple know what is best for them, I guess.

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    • sl33pysheepgirl
      5 years ago

      It isn't that i am asking myself this question in the aspect that i am uncertaint about this.

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  • 12Ncrawler35
    5 years ago

    Maybe give the relationship more time. I’m not an expert but you should try to see if there’s problems with the relationship and if you would actually last long term.

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    • sl33pysheepgirl
      5 years ago

      communication is key and there is plenty of that here that being said any problems that arise i know we can easily work through.

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  • Columbusbiguy
    5 years ago

    I am assuming you have had a relatively small amount of relationship partners. You have a lot of living left to do and people and things to experience before going down that road.

    However if you are going to do it, keep it simple. Weddings are overrated and overpriced. Have a ceremony that you can afford and more importantly have fun at. It's your party, create your own rules. Spend more on the honeymoon, you tend to remember that just as much.

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    • sl33pysheepgirl
      5 years ago

      As far as the amount of relationship partners i have had goes it isn't really a small amount however it isn't probably as many as most women who are married but i have had all the times that i feel are necessary to show me that this is what i have been looking for and really that this is what i need. I have already been through so much bad and now that i have found this unconditional comfort and care support in ALL areas i need there's no point in going out and trying to find "better". I don't feel like i am rushing into anything and i am ready to start a life with my partner and build up from ground zero if that is what it takes.

      I do believe that a commitment ceremony will be perfect and spending more on the honeymoon is a great idea thank you.

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  • BlindSpot
    5 years ago

    I know a lot of women who have married early and who are quite happy. So what if it's a social construct or whatever. Have a small ceremony if you prefer that. Do what makes you happy! And if you still feel unsure, perhaps book an appointment with a pre-marital counsellor and talk those feelings through. All the very best :-)

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    • sl33pysheepgirl
      5 years ago

      yea honestly i feel like we are on a whole new level of maturate compared to a lot of other people we know. Where we know them from also plays into things for sure. This being said for the first time i feel like i am actually WITH someone and not just "oh yeaaaa i am going to the movies with William this Saturday." It feels real. I just don't see having a big wedding ceremony as ever being a make or break kind of deal. As long as i am with him and we always feel and provide for each other that we do now i cant see my self anywhere else. There is tons of emotional support and understanding that i have lacked in any relationship I've been in well in awhile.

      I appreciate the feedback and am sending well your way.
      Thank you!

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