Is it normal to get married?

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Your friendly neigh... no, that doesn't work, I'm not really that friendly am I??? Anyway, megadriver here, I got hitched...

There were minimal corona restrictions in Bulgaria, the wedding was a go, so my sexy 'lil British girl got a fun, fancy wedding with an ok-number of guests (we didn't go crazy on the guest list). She also now has a loudmouth, sarcastic car guy who can cook her favorite meals as a husband.
My parents are extremely happy because I'm adulting right! Her father still hates my guts, her mother was very happy for us and gave us a very generous gift and I'm happy cause I now have a wife, my dream wife... and I got to do donuts in the church parking lot in my S600, wife next to me, screaming out the window and my best friend in his Ford Focus ST to celebrate the wedding and I didn't get too drunk afterwards. The OO I wanted to mark on the parking lot as two rings connecting ended up looking as a 09... I blame the car! XD Naturally we got some useless wedding gifts we'll never use, but put in the basement at my parents apartment anyway.

So the question - Is it normal to get married? Especially nowadays, where everything is unique and has to be edgy...

Also bonus question - Is it normal to skip the honeymoon? We decided to save that money to renovate my parents apartment/ our future home, instead of wasting it at tourist traps.
We did go on vacation in Greece for a week, but that's something we do every year, not really the grandiose honeymoon you see in movies and in literature...

PS: Have a good one! And yes, this was written after some whiskey.

Honeymoons are unique - YOLO! 2
You shouldn't get tied down to one woman (Why?) 0
Statistically 40% of marriages end up in divorce (Don't you have books to cook and taxes to file?) 0
No! 2
Let me explain... 0
Yes! 3
Die you patriarchial SOB! Another feminist warrior lost! (If you are pleasetalktome vote this) 0
Skip honeymoon, cash FTW. 0
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  • 1WeirdGuy
    2 years ago

    Congratulations, I don't get the big fuss about marriage these days. Anti marriage ppl probably just havent found the right one or they'd be married too. Its actually quite nice.

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  • DADNSCAL
    2 years ago

    Forego the big wedding. Start off with some once in a lifetime memories that you will miss if you don’t. It doesn’t matter where you go or what you do, just enjoy the time together.

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  • Somenormie
    2 years ago

    Yes but only marry someone if you feel like you're ready for it.

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  • olderdude-xx
    2 years ago

    It's quite normal and makes a lot of economic and long term health sense to get married to a long term partner.

    The key is finding someone who shares your long term life dreams and goals, and when both of you understand that marriage is about agreeing to work out problems; as there will certainly be problems (you have no idea what kinds of boulders life will through at you).

    My wife and I ended up in 6 months of issue/marriage counseling about 1 year after marriage (cost me a years PTO and over $10,000: cheapest thing I have ever done for the value returned). We had not lied to each other; but, we didn't know some things about ourselves that did not come out until we were married. In both cases the thing that came out would have been automatic "no's" to considering the other for marriage.

    We both learned a lot in the counseling and we both adjusted to who the other person was. Key here is that neither of us lied. We just didn't know some things about ourselves. Everything else was good.

    As far as a wedding and honeymoon. I would not go much in debt for a wedding or honeymoon. Its hard enough paying life bills and saving for other things and retirement, without saddling yourself with huge marriage and honeymoon cost.

    My wife and I did a very nice weeding at a nice resort with a sunny sandy beach wedding on a blue lake for under $4000 including food; but, excluding the rings. Our honeymoon was a several hundred dollar 3 day trip to a nearby city where I took her to beautiful gardens, parks, zoos, and visited family in the area (my wife got to ride a horse, and drive a tractor at my oldest brothers place - which she really appreciated). She was just talking last week about how great that honeymoon trip was (9.5 years ago).

    Note in my case I paid all engagement, wedding, and honeymoon cost myself.

    You can have great memories without spending thousands of dollars that you likely do not have, or could use better elsewhere. Look for adventure and sights you want to see...

    Now if you are wealthy, the answers are different.

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