Is it normal to find that humans cannot fully communicate with each other?

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Even if it's a friend you have known for years, and of course you speak the same language, do you have times finding he or she not understanding what you mean?

Examples:
-You've asked a perfectly normal question, but he/she doesn't reply, like you have offended them or you have asked something stupid.

-They don't give a sh*t when you express a feeling.

-You have times not understanding why some people do such and such too.

This makes me think the human world is so complicated. It is very difficult to find someone who understands you well, especially your thoughts.

Is it just me, or is the human world has never been fully communicable? Please comment! :D

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  • pr3tty1np1nk
    12 years ago | pl

    We all think and act like we're the only person in the universe. And we want people to feel the same about ourselves, when they think and feel like they're alone too.
    You always think of your feelings, your life, and what you're going to do next. When do you ever do that about random people? Sometimes you wonder about other people's lives, but the vast majority of your time is spent on yourself. You never take into account that the person next to you has the same feelings as you, which is why you have those examples above happen.

    Not saying anyone is selfish, or self-centered; I'm not. But I've noticed that with the human race, we believe we're alone. And often times when you believe something is true, it feels that way, even when it's not.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    I am often accused of employing stilted and flowery speech, but at least I get my point across clearly.

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  • Chillpill
    12 years ago | pl

    I agree with you and I think it's partly the nature of language. Every time we choose a word, we label something. If I want to refer to someone I know, I need to pick between expressions like "colleague", "friend" or just "someone I work with". In reality, it could be a mixture, but language doesn't take account of the changing nature of our relationship (e.g. "a colleague in the process of becoming a friend" would sound ridiculous) This is just one example for the many nuances that are missing in language.
    In a book I read, two people with very different backgrounds were also struggling to understand each other. The author analyzed these differences and came up with a "dictionary of misunderstood words" to explain what things like skyscrapers, which one loved and the other hated, meant to them, respectively. IMO really getting to know someone or even yourself can be quite a long process.
    I guess that's why it's so great to meet someone who is "on the same wavelength", when conversation flows easy and you just get each other effortlessly, most of the time.

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