Is it normal to feel very anxious about checking out girls that walk by on the

Whenever some hoit chick walks by the street my friends look at her and turn their heads around but I don't because I don't feel worthy of lloking at them. I am 18 years old and overweight and feel that if I looked at them someone in the background would laugh at me for doing so, or even worse the chick in question.

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Comments ( 14 )
  • imustbnutz

    Look but don't touch! No matter who you are.

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  • moomus

    Women will have more respect for you if you don't leer and make comments. Everybody looks, depends on how you look. There's a discreet glance, or staring full on and making comments. The latter will make you look like a desperado

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  • anarchy-is-glory

    Cheer up bro. I'm not overweight but I'm ass ugly and we have every right to watch women.

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  • Look. Enjoy. Don't feel bad.

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  • Ennue

    That's really cute, but look, just don't be loud or creepy about it.

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  • Pisslan616

    I try my best not to stare at girls, I think that if they catch me at it they would be offended that a person like me was looking at them. I'm sure if someone hot was doing it they wouldn't mind.

    If I caught a girl checking me out then I think I would feel pretty good about myself. Needless to say this doesn't happen very often if at all.

    About being fat, I wouldn't worry about it. I am skinny as fuk and girls still don't find me attractive. My overweight friends seem to be able to get girls so I'm sure it all to do with 'the confidence'.

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  • It's very Normal to check out girls.

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  • tysonkc

    Don't listen to TyLee, seriously. All guys watch girls, all the time, everywhere. If they say they don't they're just lying to you or they're into dudes, and i'm sure gay guys stare at other guys too. It's normal to feel insecure, I felt the same, I never smiled or looked at girls because I thought they wouldn't like me.

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  • TyLee

    No you should not do that. That is so disrespectful! I like girls too but I am not a desperate loser! I don't check girls out and look at them or their private areas to get excited and make comments about them. That is so low. Your friends sound like douchebags. You need to be confident in yourself so try to lose weight. Then get some new friends, and respect women. You will get so much farther in life and be so much better off if you do that.

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  • Caryopteris

    If you want to amaze your friends, actually speak to the pretty girls. Just say something like, "Hi, how are you doing?" They will either murmur a reply and keep going or stop and chat. Either way your friends will be dumbfounded that you are so confident. Many women like confident guys who are polite and respectful and don't act like the sluts who should be thrilled to sleep with them. Being nice actually is refreshing.

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  • seekingcleanfriendship

    Watching a girl walk by helps no one gets you nowhere. Stay smart and respectful.

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  • blaster

    Yeah if I wanna look I just look and if I wanna enjoy I do that too . They don't seem to mind it one bit but I don't mean in that streety yelling out or noise bs that you often see , that must be hard for most girls.
    I use to look away tho , I never wanted a girl to feel stared at , always thought she'd despise me doing it , till I discovered she actually likes it - mostly.
    I even try to pick up her vibe and enjoy her to the max if she seems to be enjoying it back.
    Some chicks actually come closer and subtly start to flaunt themselves a little sometimes - turns me on so much when they do that.

    Anyway , I'd enjoy the view subtly if I was you , she'll know your not like the others , girls can pick that up very easily. She won't mind on those terms.

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  • zedsdead

    There's nothing wrong with looking a girls you find attractive. Just as long as you know the difference between looking/glancing (acceptable) and staring (rude/creepy).

    If you want to get a date or talk to random girls you see out-and-about, you *must* make eye contact, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Just be casual about it, don't stare.

    If you look into her eyes and she looks back, it might mean she likes you. If she smiles or does something like play with her hair, the odds are even greater. Just go up and talk to her. Something like "hi, I looked at you and saw that you looked and smiled back, my name's <insertname>, what's yours?". That's it. BUT, you must make it seems very casual, like chatting up some girl you see is completely natural. Females can smell fear and if they sense apprehension, your chances of her going out with you pretty much go down the toilet. Women like confidence.

    The habit of immediately turning away as soon as a girl sees you looking at her is something you should really try to break. There's nothing wrong with just glancing over at someone. Breaking it off immediately is like putting a big sign up that says "it was wrong of me to look at you, I'm a wimpy guy, don't go out with me". Whereas just continuing eye contact for a few seconds after she sees you gives you the impression of being an alpha-male. Hope that helps

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  • Catwheezle

    Yup: look, as subtly as you can manage.

    If you can avoid ogling, staring, or catcalling, then you're doing good.

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