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Honestly, I strongly believe that anybody who favors looks over heart are narrow-minded. The way I see it, looks will fade with time, but a person's heart will remain the way it is forever. Is it normal to think feel this way about people who are like this?
| It's normal, and reasonable. | 45 | |
| It's normal, but unreasonable. | 24 | |
| It's normal. I feel the exact same way too. | 36 | |
| It's not normal. | 18 |
Everyone is interested in looks to an extent. I'm often not interested in the conventionally attractive but you could argue that means I like unconventional. To some extent that's true, but personality has always been more important to me.
I suppose the point I'm making is that no one thing is the reason you are attracted to someone. It's a combination of things with differing weightings. Some people weight towards looks, some not so much.
I had a friend, a great friend, who ended up "liking" me. He was a great guy as far as heart goes, but what put me off as far as dating him was his personality. I liked him and got along great with him as a friend but I knew I couldn't live with his personality as a boyfriend.
You can be a great, loyal, dependable person but your personality can overshadow those traits. An AWESOME personality can overshadow looks just the same. It's not always about looks.
It's normal but unreasonable. It's human nature to judge first by external appearance rather than internal qualities.
Why do you think it is people get up in arms about a puppy being abused but no one cares about the ugly snake or lobster?
Sorry to tell you but life isnt a fairy tale. Appearance is once of the bigest influences in this world you can get further with looks than you ever would with heart. You can dissagree that im wrong but how many people that are completely hideous have had a great looking partner just because they have alot of heart? I would say not so many (or even none).
I am not calling anyone names, but, I do find Heidi Klum's marriage to Seale to be interesting. Heart is everything. If you are some weak-minded person, it doesn't matter how gorgeous you are. You will trash your looks, hang around with losers, and end up in a not too "grand" condition (like dead from AIDS like Gia Carangi). Time is the great equalizer and I do feel sorry for young people who walk around using their appearance as a crutch (while neglecting their education)to get favors from others and move ahead in the world. One day, sooner than they realize, they are going to be treated like a BIG JOKE if they try to use their "sex appeal" to get something.
A person's appearance is part of who he is. Everything we are is physical. Much of our appearance is shaped by our own habits and lifestyle. A person's own perception of their appearance influences their personality profoundly. Every time you look in the mirror, you have changed yourself in some small way. The appreciation of physical beauty is a part of being human. It is not reasonable to expect someone to completely ignore appearance in a relationship.
I think people should firstly look for people in their league when they look at looks. You should feel sexually attracted , Then you take everyone your sexually attracted to and start browsing their personality's and see if you like it. Its like a filter system. I do it a lot. And you have to get approval from the other mate. This technique is considered for boys only haha :D.
It's fail safe , Then you get people who's in ur league with looks and personlity . I mean come on , fair is fair .
But if someone with a good league of looks are okay with people in lesser league's , then that's obviously also okay
People who are more interested in looks are probably just looking to get laid or have a short-lived affair. They won't be around to see the looks fade. I see absolutely nothing wrong with such promiscuity so long as everyone involved is honest, safe and consenting. I can understand your point of view if someone is professing their undying love for someone hot just to bed them and dump them.
Sadly, it's all about looks. No-one talks to the ugly guy/girl in a bar in the hope of discovering a great personality. If you're not a looker, I wouldn't bother.
Those are both useless. I would go for logic but that option isn't on here.
When it comes to wild hot sex who cares about heart? I don't think it's narrow-minded to have standards.
Actually, a lot of qualities are taken into consideration before heart.
Status, respect, personality. I dated a guy that was sweet. Lovable loser like that one good Adam Sandler movie. It was great while it lasted, he treated me well. But it ended (He dumped me) and once I wasn't getting special treatment I realized we had nothing in common. We didn't have any interests or even the same sense of humor. No wonder it didn't work out.
@: ItDuz
I beg to differ. How successful you are in life has less to do with how you look than with who your parents are, your background, your skillset, your level of smarts, who you know, your level of ambition, and how political and manipulative you are. There are tons of ugly senators, governors, and Supreme Court Justices. If your rule applies, why don't strippers and Play Boy Bunnies take over these career fields? Looks will only carry you so far. However, you will ALWAYS be treated like an idiot if that is all you have to bring to the table and your life will really be "special" when you get into your 40s. Those relying on their looks alone to make it should really get a more pragmatic handle on their life and start earning their way for a change like the rest of humankind. If they had a car accident and their face got jacked up, then what? In addition, the biggest arguments against your "beautiful equals success theory" are: Clarence Thomas, Bill Gates, Warren Buffet,Oprah Winfrey, and Dr. Phil.
I do think people prefer that, but I never felt anything for one so they wnt get either off me.