It's perfectly normal to want a relationship with someone you are sexually active with. You said yourself that it's normal to become progressively more emotionally attached to someone over time, because of human biology.
I don't think it's anyone's fault if two people want different things, but you've got to take it on the chin and move on instead of blaming her and refusing to accept any blame yourself. If all you do is blame the other person for wanting something different to you, that comes across as very self-centred. You're using the other person as a means to an end (the "end" being mild sexual activity) without caring about their emotions aside from how they impact on you. Friends with benefits is most likely to be a positive experience when you both care about each other's feelings. Mutually objectifying someone sexually is fun, but you've got to care about each other out of bed as well or this will always happen.
IIN to feel sad after being rejected for not wanting a relationship?
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It's perfectly normal to want a relationship with someone you are sexually active with. You said yourself that it's normal to become progressively more emotionally attached to someone over time, because of human biology.
I don't think it's anyone's fault if two people want different things, but you've got to take it on the chin and move on instead of blaming her and refusing to accept any blame yourself. If all you do is blame the other person for wanting something different to you, that comes across as very self-centred. You're using the other person as a means to an end (the "end" being mild sexual activity) without caring about their emotions aside from how they impact on you. Friends with benefits is most likely to be a positive experience when you both care about each other's feelings. Mutually objectifying someone sexually is fun, but you've got to care about each other out of bed as well or this will always happen.