I will never understand how anyone can genuinely believe they are the other gender, because they've never been the other gender so it's about them IMAGINING what it would be like to be the other gender (sorry for the repetitiveness of that phrase). I could imagine I were a black person trapped in a white body, but I don't really know what it's like to be black, because I'm not.
In this case, I reckon what it really means is that OP doesn't feel he fits the male sterotype and why should he anyway?
"Changing gender" involves surgery to the genitals and hormone therapy no person who cared about their future health would expose their bodies to. I foresee many health problems in the future for people taking huge doses of sex hormones which don't occur normally and the body can't cope with.
By all means, dress and behave as you wish, but it doesn't make you other opposite gender my friend. Of course, this is harder than "changing gender" but much more honest and realistic in my opinion.
Surgeons and shrinks are hormone manufacturers are making a fortune out of exploiting people's mistaken ideas about what is a "real man" or a "real woman" - be whoever you are, but you're a bloke, you were born one and have grown up as one, nothing can change that.
It seems that you are misunderstanding what I mean. I definitley never want to undergo a sex change, and it's not that I don't fit the stereotype. I know this is an exageration of your point but for example: just because I don't like sports doesn't mean I was born with the wrong genitals. It's more complicated, so I'll try to explain it better. When I say I feel like I was born the wrong gender, I don't mean I AM female, not at all. I understand that nothing can change the fact that a greater portion of testosterone flows through my body. I simply have a great DESIRE to be female. Everybody has their problems with society's expectation for them to perform their respective gender. But there comes a point.
At that point you're far past the primitive name-calling. You are not simply a sissy or a pussy or a tomboy or queer. You have passed the threshold of disconnect onto the other side.
I'm not just fond of girly things and playing dress-up. I have a deep, guttural desire to be part of that group that identifies as female. I want to wear skirts and dresses and put on make-up and hit on and boys and be called beautiful. I want to be led in a waltz, I want to be able to braid my hair, I want to shave my body hair, I want to play the leading role in the relationship. I want all of these things and more separately and together. Collectively as a society we call these things female. That is what it means to have this kind of disconnect.
I'm not trying to "debunk" your interperation, I'm just providing mine. I'm glad you have shared your opinion, which is why I have opened up this discussion. However, I don't want this to turn into an argument, so let's not get heated here.
Thanks for the expansion of your original post and no, I don't want any arguments about it either, it's not something to argue about but it's valuable to share views because it's becoming more and more common and I truly believe has potential dangers
Good luck with however you live your life, but I'm sorry I don't see how you can be part of the group that identifies as female, because you're just not female. If you think being a woman is playing the lead role in the relationship I think you're mistaken, relationships are much more variable than that.
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I will never understand how anyone can genuinely believe they are the other gender, because they've never been the other gender so it's about them IMAGINING what it would be like to be the other gender (sorry for the repetitiveness of that phrase). I could imagine I were a black person trapped in a white body, but I don't really know what it's like to be black, because I'm not.
In this case, I reckon what it really means is that OP doesn't feel he fits the male sterotype and why should he anyway?
"Changing gender" involves surgery to the genitals and hormone therapy no person who cared about their future health would expose their bodies to. I foresee many health problems in the future for people taking huge doses of sex hormones which don't occur normally and the body can't cope with.
By all means, dress and behave as you wish, but it doesn't make you other opposite gender my friend. Of course, this is harder than "changing gender" but much more honest and realistic in my opinion.
Surgeons and shrinks are hormone manufacturers are making a fortune out of exploiting people's mistaken ideas about what is a "real man" or a "real woman" - be whoever you are, but you're a bloke, you were born one and have grown up as one, nothing can change that.
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It seems that you are misunderstanding what I mean. I definitley never want to undergo a sex change, and it's not that I don't fit the stereotype. I know this is an exageration of your point but for example: just because I don't like sports doesn't mean I was born with the wrong genitals. It's more complicated, so I'll try to explain it better. When I say I feel like I was born the wrong gender, I don't mean I AM female, not at all. I understand that nothing can change the fact that a greater portion of testosterone flows through my body. I simply have a great DESIRE to be female. Everybody has their problems with society's expectation for them to perform their respective gender. But there comes a point.
At that point you're far past the primitive name-calling. You are not simply a sissy or a pussy or a tomboy or queer. You have passed the threshold of disconnect onto the other side.
I'm not just fond of girly things and playing dress-up. I have a deep, guttural desire to be part of that group that identifies as female. I want to wear skirts and dresses and put on make-up and hit on and boys and be called beautiful. I want to be led in a waltz, I want to be able to braid my hair, I want to shave my body hair, I want to play the leading role in the relationship. I want all of these things and more separately and together. Collectively as a society we call these things female. That is what it means to have this kind of disconnect.
I'm not trying to "debunk" your interperation, I'm just providing mine. I'm glad you have shared your opinion, which is why I have opened up this discussion. However, I don't want this to turn into an argument, so let's not get heated here.
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Thanks for the expansion of your original post and no, I don't want any arguments about it either, it's not something to argue about but it's valuable to share views because it's becoming more and more common and I truly believe has potential dangers
Good luck with however you live your life, but I'm sorry I don't see how you can be part of the group that identifies as female, because you're just not female. If you think being a woman is playing the lead role in the relationship I think you're mistaken, relationships are much more variable than that.