Is it normal to feel like a girl who previously liked you doesn't anymore?

OK, Here's the thing. There's this girl who suddenly approached me. I didn't really know her before very well, but she was always around there somewhere at get togethers. We talked a lot the first few times. It was good. Finding people that articulate is really rare..
Anyways, we're doing this project together now with a couple of my friends who she got to know through me. Now, even though she's still nice to me and we have convos and stuff, its like she's talking to my friends more... I am feeling so bad about this....I don't know why..These are MY friends, why should i feel like this? Now I keep thinking about the next time we'll talk.

I have some bad qualities which may have put her off : I'm, how do I put this eloquently, overtly energetic? Also though I'm not bad looking, I'm a very broad, tall and imposing guy. Those 2 things don't mix very well :(

Heck, I don't even know why this girl came up to me in the first place. Most of them seem scared of me..

I think I enjoyed the exclusivity. I don't know what to do because I keep feeling like If I say anything, I'll seem desperate.

Feelings suck. =[

Is It Normal?
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  • The same thing happened to me. And when I say the same, I mean, EXACTLY the same. And I feel the same way about my previous crush. It seems like she was interested in me at some point, but then we started growing distant. So don't worry. Try to find a person with the same personality, and a pretty face.

    Good luck.

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  • Oh and I once had a crush on a guy for a full year and a half. Absolutely crazy about him, but I didn't want to tell him because it would mess up our friendship. We were like best friends friends for a while until eventually he started to drift. It really hurt that he didn't seem to like spending time with me as much and I kept trying to hang onto him "as a friend". When I finally told him how I felt, he told me he liked someone else. I don't know what could have happened a year and a half earlier, but I do know that I could have saved myself a lot of pain.

    Sorry for my long comments, but I hope they help.

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  • Those feelings are definitely normal. Maybe she liked you and moved on, maybe she never liked you, or maybe she still likes you but pretending not to because you didn't seem interested. The only way to really find out is to tell you how you feel. As for not wanting to sound desperate... I'm afraid that's an unavoidable feeling in life. We've all been there...

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  • Carpe diem.

    That what happens when you delay "the move" .

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  • i thot i forgot something

    ***disclaimer***(the answerer is not exactly in his right mind, he's insensitive to the point of being painful and/or fatal so BEWARE!!!)

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  • sorry it was long

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  • "I have some bad qualities which may have put her off : I'm, how do I put this eloquently, overtly energetic? Also though I'm not bad looking, I'm a very broad, tall and imposing guy. Those 2 things don't mix very well :("
    if you think you have some stuff u need to improve upon that you can improve upon, then do it, if you think you need to improve just to please someone else, well, i wouldn't recommend it, unless that someone is real real special(which is as it is really rare).

    "Heck, I don't even know why this girl came up to me in the first place. Most of them seem scared of me.."Im not an extrovert myself, but i sorta relate to your situation i guess, most girls seem scared of me, but i gotta say from what i've seen that maybe you need to break the ice (i said this, but i gotta say that in my case i have not done the same yet). maybe what you need to do is start talking to her and maybe if possible in her presence to other females as well or vice versa so that they'll feel comfortable in ur presence, and then i guess, things will get better

    "I think I enjoyed the exclusivity. I don't know what to do because I keep feeling like If I say anything, I'll seem desperate." I think you should get out and talk to the scared females (not all of a sudden though they might think you're crazy, but bit by bit, make it a point to chit chat with any female who's not engaged on anything at the moment (maybe you're uncomfortable speaking to her when she's with other females in which case get her alone without making her panic, i mean she shouldn't be terrified of you as it is u said they seem scared of u that's why i mentioned specificially didn't mean to imply u are indeed scary) and then if possible build a rapport and then later on even if she's not alone go up to her and chit chat and i guess pretty soon word'll get around that you're not as unsociable as they might've perceived you to be and then i guess things will get better.

    all the best

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  • It's normal to think that. I mean.. I don't want to sound mean or anything but she might of just got tired of talking to you or found someone else to talk to in your group of friends. That would be pretty bullshitty anyway. Maybe, you should just forget about her.

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  • Yes it sucks but ppl do get tired and or bored of each other.

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