Is it normal to feel guilty that your parents still aren't grandparents ?

Is it normal to be guilty for not having kids (being in the late twenties ) and your parents , not becoming grandparents , like they are getting old and they still didn't have grandchildren, i'm not sure about my sexual orientation , so don't know which gender i prefer and id on't think i'm ready for kids , my older sis isn't a mother material and i don't think she likes kids , and my youngest sis is still young . is it normal to feel guilty for not having kids ,while people my parents know have now became grandparents ?

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  • Oh god not this. The "Are you going to have grandkid talk" Well I am fortunate most of my other siblings have kids so I’m home free!

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  • The grandparents would only be the third most important group, the first being the born child, second yourself as parents. Only then fo grandparents figure. If you don't want a child, that would be disregarding the two most important groups, only considering the third most important.

    Also, your parents might not even want you to have kids, to be grandparents could make them feel old. Late-twenties is too early to be worrying about that yet, anyway.

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  • I feel you, I went through these same thoughts since I'm the oldest of my siblings, I'm gay, my younger brother has mental disabilities and probably will never get married, and the two youngest are girls. I thought, who's going to carry on my father's family name? Will my parents be young enough to stay active with their grandkids if/when they ever have them? But I eventually stopped stressing about it. It is what it is. For now, my parents will just have to settle with having four legged grandkids =)

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  • Have you talked to your parent yet? Do you know that they want some grand kids that badly? But what I do know, is thath if I were an aging parent, I would want to see my bloodline go on, but not at the expense of my child's happiness.

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  • Why feel guilty ? You should figure yourself first, then worry about bringing another life to the world .

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