Is it normal to break off a relationship with a lover because you care more?

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We're best friends and have been dating for a couple months. We've already discussed about how I seem to have more feelings for her than she does for me. She recently broke up with her boyfriend and we are both going to be in different countries next year. She says this is why her love for me is taking a longer time to develop (due to the uncertainty of the future). Is it normal to break it off, but still be friends so she can potentially realize how much she really does care for me? Or is this manipulative...

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  • Knitpicky
    12 years ago | pl

    If you really care about her, you'll do whatever it takes to see her happy. Let her know you're still there for her, but you're willing to wait until SHE is ready. After all, you did say she just broke up with her boyfriend, you don't want to just be a rebound, do you?

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  • firefly88
    13 years ago | pl

    not manipulative but immature. nothing will become of it if you decide to be so fake

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  • BABEisLOVE
    13 years ago | pl

    stay as long as you can...
    especially if you really love her :>

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  • Scrat
    13 years ago | pl

    she wants to sleep with some more
    guys and girls then be be your gf!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    I say break it off and when she comes back see what your feelings for eachother are.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    You are dating. If you are looking for much more than that it may not be realistic as she is on the rebound, and, you both are going to different countries. She's being honest with you about this. Are you being honest to yourself? Stay if you can accept things for what they are. Leave if you can't accept it. But don't fault her as not being as loving or being manipulative. That's just fault finding.

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  • deepthought33
    13 years ago | pl

    So you say you're best freinds but you think you're only remaining her friend in hopes that she falls in love with you?
    I guess I don't understand why you label your friendship in such a way--as though there is something 'off' about a male and a female trusting, loving and getting to know each other as freinds regardless of whether it turns into something more. It isn't as if you must choose between that and cutting all ties with her.
    As far as being manipulative goes...people feel what they feel. Don't be so hard on yourself and don't feel like this situation you're in needs so many labels and rules.
    Hope I made sense :)

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