Is it normal to believe you need to have sex to be educated?

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People get so weird when I say I am a 21 year old virgin. I get really annoyed. I dont think you are less educated for not having sex and a lot of dead beats had sex and got stuck with kids they did not want as they did not think ahead. I just despise the stupidity of people sometime. They just like "you have to! If you do you will realize how important it is and understand why people do it". I dont understand why people enjoy sex with random people. I tried dating people I dont like and it was terribly boring. I tried dating people I adored and it was magical but people expect everyone to be so fucking shallow. What the hell is wrong with people? God its annoying. Why is having sex with random partners you dont care about a requirement to say you are "Educated"? All you learn is how much STDs suck and what its like having babies you dont want.

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8 years ago

Yes, I don't get what's with all the no strings attached sex going on everywhere.
Sex is a very enjoyable experience but I am willing to wait. Till then, fapping will fill the gap.

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[Old Memory]

8 years ago

I understand what you mean OP, I'm not big on rando sex either.

You can use protection, but I definitely know what you mean on the STDs.

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Dream_Killer

8 years ago

Some people just like having sex because it apparently feels so good and they cannot control themselves.

I don't get why people have sex with random people at all other than the above reasons. It could just be their values. Some people see sex as a thing you only do with people whom you love others see it as a thing you do just to make yourself feel good. Everyone has different opinions and thoughts on sex. To me having sex with random people all the time is disgusting, there is way more to life than engaging in coitus with random strangers. I couldn't imagine having intercourse with more than one person, but of course that is just my opinion.

And for those people who say you don't get STD's from having sex with random people you sound kinda stupid. If that were true STD's wouldn't be a big problem. Even if you use a condom its not 100% effective and if you are on birth control it is still possible to get pregnant although the odds of pregnancy (if using your form of birth control correctly) are very low.

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LIGHTHOUSE

8 years ago

sex education is important.

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VinnyB

8 years ago

I've been having sex for about 20 years and I haven't had any babies or STD's. The fact that you think that is what you learn from having sex kind of proves you are pretty naive about sex. You can do all the learning and research about sex that you want and be aware of every technical aspect about sex without having it. But I don't think you can understand the emotional connection that two people are capable of creating through sex, and everything in your post shows you are clearly oblivious to this.

I am not telling you to go have sex. That is a personal decision for you that you should make when you are ready. But I can tell you that you have absolutely no idea what the hell you are talking about.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  I am saying randomly having sex with random people just for the hell of it and not thinking about the consequences gives you STDs and unwanted pregnancies. Yet people act like if you dont do this you are some how uneducated. I dont see how you are apparently more educated for doing it with people you dont like. Since it does.
  
  Also if its not there its simply not there. If you have sex with someone you dont like and dont feel anything its simply a choir. Its not enjoyable and you sit there bored. So what are you learning from that? That your not into that person? I am sure you could have learned that without having sex with random strangers.
  
  You cant magically make yourself enjoy something more by continuing to do it. I know I have tried this for years and it honestly did nothing. So that disproves your theory. If that was true a gay person would STOP BEING GAY by sleeping with a bunch of people of the opposing gender but I dont think sexuality really works that way.
  
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  - VinnyB
    
    8 years ago
    
    You are so sure of your own ignorance that you just doubled down on it. You might as well argue that you know everything about the way chocolate tastes when you have never eaten chocolate. You are aware of STD's, good for you. Random sex doesn't give you STD's. I have had random sex, I haven't had STD's. It is possible to have random sex responsibly. You have no idea what it feels like to have sex with a random person. You have no idea what it feels like to have sex with someone you have a connection with.
    
    There is a difference between education and understanding. You can educate yourself about sex all you want, but you can't understand the feelings and emotions involved if you have never done it. You will not know what it feels like until you do. Trying to sound like you do only makes you look silly.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      8 years ago
      
      If you have sex with strangers without checking vs people you know you already know what the person you have is carrying. A lot of people are not responsible about sex they are just like "Its very important everyone has sex!" Its not important for everyone to have sex or to pressure everyone who has not have it into having it.
      
      Whats the purpose of having sex with someone you hate just to say "Yeah I had sex. It totally sucked but I going to keep doing it hoping something will change". If your not into it your just not into it. There has been gay people who try to have sex with the other sex in hopes they would stop being gay but they are still gay.
      
      Sometimes you already know what you are and what you are into. Its kind of like saying "I am going to touch this hot stove to see if it will burn me". Well obviously its hot. You dont need to burn yourself to see if it is. You can look at evidence. If the evidence proves that you are probably not going to be right with this person why try it anyways to confirm it?
      
      Thats really illogical. You dont need to have sex to know what you are sexually attracted to. Otherwise you are telling everyone straight and gay person they do not have a right to be gay or straight unless they have sex with every race, and sex. Why do you believe that is your right to dictate?
      
      I can say "Evidence says that this chemical is highly deadly to humans". Now I could trap a bunch of random people in a room and let out the gas and see if they all die. However if I did so I would be killing people for a pointless reason and go to jail for false imprisonment, and murder.
      
      You are clearly one of the most irrational people on earth, not to mention believing you can dictate another person sexuality. Why do you believe you get to decide what other people are ALLOWED to be into?
      
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      - VinnyB
        
        8 years ago
        
        So, all you are doing is repeating yourself over and over again. The very few new things you brought to the conversation have nothing to do with anything I said. I never said that you have to hve sex to know what you are sexually attracted to, nor do I believe it. I never said anything about sexual attraction at all. Never did I say anything about what people are allowed to be into. I don't give a crap what you're into. As I said in my original comment, if you don't want to have sex, don't. That is your choice and right. So thanks for putting words in my mouth.
        
        All I did say is that it is impossible to to know what a feeling or emotion feels like without experiencing them. So far as a can tell you have said nothing to dispute that.
        
        You want to say you know everything about the risks of STD's. Fine.
        You want to say you know all about the risks of pregnancy. Fine with me too.
        You want to say you don't want to have sex. I say fine, your choice.
        You want to say you never want to have sex. Sure, whatever, up to you.
        but you want to pretend you have any idea what it is like to experience sex with out experiencing it? Sorry, but you don't.
        
        It is pretty clear from you constant repeating of the same thing over and over, and your putting words in my mouth assuming what I think, that you just posted this to have your own opinions validated, and aren't actually interested in what others think. That being the case, I am going to leave you to just parrot the same talking points over and over and I am done. Enjoy the rest of your day.
        
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        8 years ago
        
        So than there is no purpose in believing that if you keep having sex with people you are not comfortable with is going to teach you anything about your sexuality. So why say we all need to do so? Its utterly pointless.
        
        You dont need sex to know what you are or are not into. Some people just figure it out. You dont need to have it to understand its not your thing. People can know if they are gay, straight or kinky and never have it.
        
        Yes.. I know if I have sex with people I dont care for its going to be a boring choir. Just like a gay person does not need to have sex with someone who does not need to go have sex with a bunch of women to realize "Hm perhaps I am probably not into chicks".
        
        So you are still asserting that everyone has to have sex to have a sexuality which is illogical. No we dont have to all have sex since you say so your highness!
        
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thegypsysailor

8 years ago

I don't see what one has to do with the other, except it seems rather foolish to deprive one's self of all that pleasure.
Of course, like anything else, you don't know what you're missing if you haven't tried it.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  It is if you can only be sexually aroused by someone you find mentally or emotionally stimulating. Yet people assume that for people like that you can just keep trying and suddenly will fill something. Which people dont understand. Everyone assumes EVERYONE is into the same stuff. They dont get some are kinky, some are gay, some are straight. That what works for one person is not going to work for the planet. Even if it works for a large majority. In fact its a major turn off when I am not actually into it. Its like telling a gay person to just keep trying to be straight and sleep with random girls. He will eventually learn to enjoy it.
  
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  - thegypsysailor
    
    8 years ago
    
    Bologna. Sex is fun, whatever way you choose to do it. It doesn't have to be the sex I prefer or Joe Blow either. It doesn't have to be "mentally or emotionally stimulating"; it can be a physical experience.
    But to say you aren't into something you've never experienced is only flopping your gums, because you are only surmising you don't like it.
    I have no desire to base jump, but until I actually try it, I will never know for sure if I'm "actually into it".
    You assume you wouldn't like sex, but until you try it, how can you be so sure?
    Your attitude only closes off a huge amount of life that you might enjoy. In a way it is every bit as closed minded as being a racist. How many racists hate certain races without ever having met or interacted with that race? Is that logical?
    I never said anything about what sex or with whom; that is a personal choice. Plenty of hetero men have found themselves to be gay after having children and being in a loving relationship with a woman for many years and vice versa for women.
    Plenty of gay women end up married to men and having a wonderful life. People change; tastes change. If they don't they stagnate, and that isn't living; it's existing.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      8 years ago
      
      Yeah no its not. Its possible to turn people off and its incredibly hard to turn me on. You have fun having sex with anyone but its incredibly boring for me. I have tried to enjoy stuff like kissing and being intimate but its just not enjoyable unless I am into the person. So its possible to get turned off. Not everyone is a turn on.
      
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      - green_boogers
        
        8 years ago
        
        You deserve to get whipped by a domantrix. You are ashamed of your cock and your sexuality. You must be punished. Erotically.
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        8 years ago
        
        I am into that lifestyle actually. Sadly my personality overshadows most people. So it would be hard trying to find someone to dominate me.
        
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      - thegypsysailor
        
        8 years ago
        
        Wow, 21 and YOU KNOW EVERYTHING@!! Let me shake your hand. I don't think I've ever run across someone so young and so determined to avoid living.
        
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        8 years ago
        
        I dont know how you would get that impression. Neither was this post about knowing everything. Simply that someone can know what they are sexually into without trying everything. I dont know why people dont trust other people to figure it out on their own. I dont know why we have to assist and force them into sexual activity's they dont feel like doing. Since OTHER FEEL THAT IS RIGHT.
        
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green_boogers

8 years ago

Firstly, get educated on birth control. Secondly, learn to lick vagina for your next date.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  I am already educated about all forms of protection as well as all the issues that come along with sex. I also dont think "Hey guess what I know how to lick your pussy" is going to be a pick up line a girl wants to hear on the first date.
  
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  - green_boogers
    
    8 years ago
    
    Of course it's a bad pick up line, you dork. Licking pussy is what you do to make her glad she decided to go out with you. If you make her happy, she will want to go out with you again. Duh. Make her glad she has a pussy, moron. If she finally tells you what to do with that cock in your pants, OBEY HER.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      8 years ago
      
      Alright but anyone that slutty is probably going to dump me after a few months. You cant put a leash on those type of women since they are sleeping with the neighborhood. Which is speaking from experience. Easy women are some what enticing but they are not always loyal.
      
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        8 years ago
        
        You're missing the point, dork. Loyalty doesn't matter, obedience does.
        
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Crusades|

8 years ago

Lmao if having sex meant education then 90% of the Australian population would be illiterate.

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- Ellenna
  
  8 years ago
  
  I don't get your response and I don't get why it's been thumbed up twice?
  
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JoeMayhem

8 years ago

you don't need to sleep around its just what social sway seems to have as the norm now sluts man what you gonna do. just set your own pace forget about what others think your sex life is yours do what you want with it.

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Someeandomguy

8 years ago

Not everyone has stds and for both not contracting stds and not inpregnating a girl there are condoms. You actually are smart for still being a virgin if your not ready to deal with the consequences.

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luvriskywife

8 years ago

I'm lucky I never caught anything from some of the women I had sex with not wearing a condom before I got married. After 20 years I was fine that my wife wanted to try a few black cocks and I encouraged her to do so but I never expected she'd be the one to make me HIV positive.

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LuxM4G

8 years ago

Having a meaningful sexual relationship will provide you a new mindset. Something you cannot attain from theoretical knowledge. If you do masturbate, then stop it at once and look for a girlfriend, a girl who you empathize emotionally and want to share your intimacy.

If this girl is also a virgin or a well educated woman with a proper social economical structure then you could have unprotected sex, I did, but we were both virgins. Otherwise I'd strongly advice you to always have safe sex and control your hormonal, chemical impulsiveness. To avoid STDs and an unwanted pregnancy.

You want to do it when the time and occasion is right for you though. I don't want you to rush it, but I neither want you to develop a severe anxiety and mental disorder about it.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Well that kind of happened and I really loved this person. They were just toying with me though and after that all the erotic fan fiction just made me depressed since I could not stop thinking about them. I really was ready to have a meaningful relationship but they were just teasing me for attention and ended up hooking with my friend and I was heart broken. I dont disagree that you meaningful sexual relationship but I dont find it meaningful sleeping with a bunch of random strangers or really even safe.
  
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1knotted

8 years ago

Educated ??? Does that mean that my cows are educated? For you city folk, she's not a cow until she's had a calf and she didn't get that calf without doing the dirty.

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NeofelisNebulosa

8 years ago

I don't think anyone is expecting you to go have random sex to learn about it. I had people tell me that I wouldn't know how good sex was until I tried it, but they didn't mean "Go do it with anyone!" I did it with a girl I really cared about (at the time) and it was even better than I expected. So just relax and wait until you find someone you care about to do it with.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Yes that is someone you care about. Its different when you care about the person.
  
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