Is it normal to become cautious about losing my virginity to my gf?

So many guys ruin perfectly good relationships because of stupid shit like this. A real man wouldn't care if she boned 1 guy or 50 guys in your time apart, she is with you now and that's all that matters.

Fucking cocksucker, your a fucking closet fudge poundee. (8)months are you fucking kidding me. That bitch should have already been swallowing and taking it straight up the ass. Your a fucking faggit!! Post us back when you get the first load dumped down your throat and up your ass.

Equivalent exchange is the first law of alchemy, not making love. You just sound silly. You have a perfectly good relationship here, don't let jealousy ruin it.

Virginity is overrated. The person is what matters. If virginity is a real big deal to you then you should find a different girl because you will never be able to respect this girl like you ought to if you want a healthy relationship with her. She deserves better than that.

It seems silly to make such a big deal out of it. It's not like she fucked the whole football team.

Fuck you.

and Bro yr a pussy not to hit her first. :(

Bro a normal man would not care because they would only be thinking about jamming their cock inside any woman.

Bro point to note, only woman care about loosing virginity to wrong person. Just fuck her god dam brains out.

You know I was only joking around a minute ago with that other post, right? You seem like you got a good sense of humor as well as a good grip on your feelings.

Dude, here is the deal. You only loose your virginity one time. It really matters not if the girl who takes it is a virgin herself, BUT, it COMPLETELY matters on how you feel about her. Do you love her? Is she the one???? If not, don't worry about it, find someone else.

Your looking for advice here...and, that can be good or bad. Lots of people will tell you stick your dick in her and forget what's in your head. WRONG!!!

Lots of people in this world and on this web site give shitty advice, and then, they wonder later why they have so many hangups. Sexual hangups are difficult to work out later. I can tell you this, you'll be glad you waited until the feelings you have are right...whether it is with this girl or not.

If your not ready, then, shit, your not ready!

The BEST thing you can do is TALK to her. Be honest and up front about your feelings. Tell her you were a fool not to have BOTH given your virginity to each other before when you had the chance, BUT, that you were thinking she was STILL a virgin when you got back together, and, that this news has frankly given you a bit of self-doubt.

If you talked about it, maybe you'd figure out, it wasn't such a big deal, after all, it's not like she cheated on you....you guys called it quits, 8 months is PLENTY of time to find someone new, develop a relationship with them that leads to sex. Hell, you can develop multiple relationships in that time frame.

The fact of the matter is, she had sex with someone else, obviously, she still had feelings for you, or, rekindled the feelings, and is with you now, that is what is most important.

Ask her to tell you about it. Maybe if you find out more, who was she with, what was it like for her, was it just a one time thing, was it a relationship, maybe it was a rebound thing from YOU! Or, maybe she IS a dirty little slut whore who banged the whole football team.

The point is, you should know what you are walking into here. AND, now that she has been deflowered, you might want to find out, does she have any hangups from it, and worst, does she have any disease? Was the guy she was with a virgin as well? If not, she might have contracted an STD...the gift that just keeps on "giving"!!! Did she use a condom??? Maybe she should go to the clinic to be tested! Maybe if you knew THAT much, and if her sexual experience WAS unprotected that she would at least do you (and herself) the favor of getting looked at. Then, maybe THAT would help ease your mind a bit. Shit, if I was her, I'D want to know if I was clean or not!!!

Too damn scary in this world to fuck around like that. 30 seconds of pleasure is NOT worth a lifetime of pain and agony, or worse, a shortened life. Don't take foolish risks!!! KNOW who you are sleeping with, and who THEY slept with, because, it is like you are all sleeping with each other. Seriously. All joking aside.

If you are uncomfortable then that it telling you to wait.

Don't worry about her being a virgin and all, she's probably still a decent woman. I don't know that for sure, being that I don't really know your girlfriend at all, but I do know that a person's amount of sexual partners does not always provide one with a reliable heuristic regarding that person's character. Fucking people certainly doesn't make you a BAD person by any means, and you should be happy to give your virginity to someone who obviously likes you as a person anyway, regardless of whether or not they've fucked someone else. At least she has a bit of experience, however paltry that may be! I think virgins should take pride in turning the heads of the more experienced.

I've never seen such an ignorant stupid group of cunts like the ones commenting on this post.It is quite clear there was an implied term that they'd both reserve their virginity for each other.So ofcourse OP feels betrayed.I also dont get his insistance on this but i get where OP is coming from.The women here are clearly all whores hence they think every girl is the same.There's some decent lasses out there & the guys commenting here are clearly all virgin wankers who'd jump at a chance to screw anything.Cher'