Is it normal to be worried about the morality/emotionality of my 1st time sex?

Your worry is completely rational. The actuality isn't. Sex and love are entirely different things and you shouldn't judge either of them based on the other.

A future girlfriend -- who you love -- would probably more appreciate you telling her that you waited for love rather than simply sleeping with some girl who was just available.... I think this would be the type of girl that you, in particular, will want to find one day. Because you are so conflicted I think you should wait; you don't have to be like everyone else.

If you are desperate to lose your virginity then do it? No ones stopping you but you. Sex and love are two different things. You don't nessiearily need to love someone to do that to them.

You don't want to regret your first time, so do what you think is right for you

When it comes to sex everybody has a different perspective. You should make sex related desitions depending on how you feel. If you feel is right go ahead and do it, but if you feel otherwise then give it more thought. Your still young and like the person above me said : "there is no need to rush". At leats from my personal experience I would'nt have sex without loving the person, because I feel that sex was made to be a special thing between you and the person you love, but thats just me. I dont judge, everybody deserves to do with their freedom what ever they wish to do. Hope I was able to help.

You will never forget your first time, good or bad. Mine was a horrible experience that left permanent emotional scars that recently resurfaced as issues again. Just be safe and enjoy. Sex does not necessarily equate to love for all people.

Just don't play ball without a glove so to speak, people can get pregnant when a virgin has sex, despite the stupid wivetales, god they're dumb, LoL.

I worried like crazy, and then it happened, I laughed when he said "C'mon Sheila, it's been 5 months" and I'm like "You may have had to wait for going on half a year..but I waited for 16 years, a bit different"..

But usually the first you have sex with, you're never with again, or never see ect. it's interesting..

Thanks everybody for all the input, I really really appreciate it. The situation is now resolved, and I guess I could really just delete this story if I wanted to, but I think I am going to leave it up, just in case someone out there is in a similar situation. Thanks guys :)

dude i would say go for it get it done as soon as possible try and even get a fuck buddy system happining if ur not religous there is nothing wrong with you still wouldn't be if u were lol dude im 22 and only just got a gf that will have sex its up to u to take the chance that you find a great chick that either is a virgin or is understanding or u pick up a chick at a bar or club and then get all embarassed when u take her home and don't no what the fuck to do with ur dick (sorry if that sounded bad) there is nothing at all wrong with ur queston!

I wouldn't worry too much about regretting it because unfortunately even if you ARE with someone you love you could still regret it. You could have a really messy break up and end up hating them and regret them having your virginity.

Emotions wise I don't think you have to love them but I would say you DO have to care, and you definitely have to trust them.
Sex can feel really empty if you don't care about the person, especially for something special like a first time, it can feel wasted.
Sex can also be really scary and embarrassing if you don't trust the person.

The caring has to be reciprocated as well, I wouldn't advise giving your virginity to someone who doesn't care about you.

Morality wise it is really completely up to you, I personally don't think there is anything wrong with it but it really doesn't matter what I think.
If you feel it's wrong, even if you can't justify why, that feeling with probably stay with you through the experience.

I wasn't in love with the person I lost my virginity too and I definitely don't regret it, it was a really nice first time, whereas a friend of mine lost hers to the boy she was in love with at the time and really regrets it now.
I think it would be nice if I could have lost my virginity to my current partner but It doesn't bother either of us.

You say you might go for it and hope it evolves into something, I'm telling you now, do NOT do it solely on the hope that you'll feel something eventually because there is a large chance that it wont, base your decision on how you are feeling NOW, not how you think you could feel.

I can not stress how important trust is though, sex is not nice if you are worrying about her gossiping to all her friends about you. And neither is her ACTUALLY gossiping about you, or laughing at you.

This is YOUR decision though, only you know how you feel, I may have lost my virginity to someone I didn't love but I was pretty confident that I was okay with things being that way before I made the decision. Be at least 90% sure. (It's doubtful you'll ever be a hundred)

Lastly don't stress too much, plenty of people regret how they lost their virginity and still go on to have perfectly happy healthy sex lives.

Sex without love - well put it this way, sex is sex whether theres love or not. . . However people view it emotionaly a different way, I don't feel that I made a mistake losing mine witha girl whom I can say I didn't love, but we were 17 and wanted to experiment. Sex is a fun physical experience for me, and doesn't need a deep emotional connection behind it. . .It may make it more fun however.

But like everyone has said, do what is right for you, if you need 'love' then wait, if you want some fun and don't think you will regret it then go for it and have fun!

its normal, but I wouldent do it unless you feel ready.

the problem is you have tied sex up to love. the best sex you will have will not be with the one you love, most likely.

sometimes you meet someone, and there is an attraction, just do it (wear a condom). just do it and don't worry about the next day, or what people will think, or blah blah. i am married and my husband and i never have sex anymore, even though i still look great. are we in love? yes. do i think everyday about every other guy who i had great sex with, yes. do i regret ever opportunity not taken? YES. yes i do.

sex has nothing to with morality.

but all that said, if it will mess with your head, don't do it.

You should think really hard about having sex with this girl. If there's no love between you two, why do it? Obviously you want to make your first time kind of special. Otherwise you wouldn't be so torn about the situation. Trust your instincts. I'm not trying to tell you how to live your life, but think about your decisions before you make them. You know yourself. And you know how things affect you.

first of all hats off for staying a virgin for so long and actually giving a fuck about it

i lost mine when i was 14 to the wrong person and i really felt like crap so if you do end up having sex with her just say before hand you dont want to just be forgotten

I think if she wants to have sex, go for it man! Sex and love aren't related and the two rarely mix as well as you'd think. Besides, if she wants casual sex and doesn't want a relationship- think of it as a practise swing.

Wait for the right person to have sex.

I say wait, there is no need to rush