Is it normal to be wary of guy friendships
I'm a 22 year old girl (/woman?) and my entire life my closest friends have all been girls with the exception of one very effeminate boy in university.
This has never been a deliberate thing, but as I've gotten older I've started to really feel that guys (for the most part) will only develop a friendship with a girl in the hopes that it will grow into something more, whether that's a relationship or just hooking up depends on the situation. All my past friendships with guys have disintegrated after he clocked that I only wanted to be platonic friends.
It's got to the point that whenever a guy I vaguely know starts messaging me one-on-one, without a specific purpose my first thought is "he's trying to gage if I'm interested in him" and I start deliberately holding back and seeming a little disinterested in the conversation so he won't get the wrong idea and can't claim I led him on.
What I'm really trying to ask is, fellow girls, am I alone in thinking this? Comments from a male perspective would also be interesting.