Is it normal to be thankful to pornography industry despite negative side effects?
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What I don't like about porn nowadays is that YOUNG children have too easy access to it. Any smartphone. When I was a kid, the only way a kid could get ahold of porn was if they found their dad's Playboy or found a VHS movie somewhere.
Another thing I don't really like about it, is that way before people lose their virginity they'll be watching it, thinking that it's a learning tool, which isn't right because it's so unrealistic. IT's so fake, it's ridiculous.
So, am I THANKFUL... NO!
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One thing I like is it's so easy for children. I think figuring your sexual identity and interests out at a young age is a good healthy thing. Allows kids to be more free and grow up quicker. I despise kids so them growing quicker is great. Otherwise yes porn is so fake and annoying. Like parents need to get on the ball and actually have the talk with kids. I never got it or sex ed. Not ideal. I didnt really need it since I like researching so much but some kids do need it
:edit please read the following replies. I clearly did not do a good job explaining what I mean so before you freak out please read the following messages
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Ahhhh no no no no no
Normalizing sexual things in a kids life is not a good thing. At all. When you normalize sexual situations it dilutes their senses to if someone were to take advantage of them. Sex needs to remain a big and scary dangerous act in the most over exaggerated way until they are mature enough to be retaught.
Kids are simple, things are very black and white for them for a good long while, they need to be taught that “sex is evil” until they are old enough to understand that sex is much more complicated and can be taught about the many factors of it.
When I worked on the border I came into contact with abused children who were raised around casual sex. There would be 12 year old kids that would try to bribe guards with sex and it would scare the shit out of us because it was so abhorrent that they were taught this.
Children should NOT “figure their sexual identity or interests out” at a young age. This is a very dangerous thing.
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I don't think they should be told that "sex is evil", as it could cause issues in their mind later but more like sex is a "grown up" thing, like driving a car or paying taxes. Nothing they should worry about at the moment.
And also when you teach a kid that sex is evil, if they ever get victim of sexual abuse, they feel terrible for having done something evil, leading to depression, over sexualisation, self destructive behaviour and even suicide.Comment Hidden ( show )-
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I think it’s more of a temporary teaching.
I had sled dogs growing up and 6 out of 8 of them were mean and would’ve hurt me.
When I was very young I was told “Don’t touch the sled dogs, sled dogs are mean”
When I got a little older I was taught “You can touch these 2 dogs, but not the others, the others are mean”Was it a bit of a lie and a blunt statement I was first taught? Yes, but it was what would get through to my childish mind. Later when I could handle more information I was retaught how to handle them.
I think the same teaching mentality can be used towards sex. Though you bring up a good point of them fearing that they might have done the wrong thing. I was taught it clean cut “This should never happen. If it happens, you need to tell me.” and sadly that’s what I ended up having to follow when I fell victim.
I wish I had a better idea of what to do to prevent the feeling of it being their own fault, but I’m drawing a blank.
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I get your point. I think that's fair.
I think that "This should never happen. If it happens, you need to tell me." is a great thing to say. I know it happened to you from a previous comment you made once and I'm really sorry about it. I've known several people in the same situation, most of them being my girlfriends, and I tried to help them the best I could.
What is really hard to make victims understand most of the time is that it's not their fault and they aren't responsible for what happened.
I think a way tha tcould work with children is to treat the abuse like a "random" bad thing, like someone hitting them or stealing their food for example. So they don't think about it too much and can move on without being locked inside the loop of suffering.
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Oh thank god.
You scared the shit out of me I was ready to have a panic attack!I know the overly pure and innocent butterflies and rainbows approach to interacting with children can be seen as silly, but it serves a very important protective and developmental role.
Regulation is a major task in parenting, you need to set based and steps as to what can be introduced and when. Kids are idiots. I adore children, but they are idiots. They can’t be trusted to take things “at their own pace” because they don’t have a concept of pace yet.
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Some do have a concept of pace. I think it has to do with upbringing. Idk I hated my childhood my parents and others taught me alot. The amount of things I learned just observing even from that young age. Idk maybe I'm just a weirdo.
I understand what you mean though. Just I see so many parents continue to baby there kids even after the point of hey it's time to be serious. I get it I do. I mean as much as a non parent can get it if that makes sense. I'm glad you understand I'm not that big of a freak though. I dont know if you've seen it but I bitch about the way kidd dress these days. My last job sold mini dresses for girls. Like just out of toddlers up to teenagers. Not even a joke. It's disgusting.
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My first exposure to porn was at about 10 years old with a Hustler magazine I found under my older brother's bed. At first glance I didn't know what I was getting myself into, and it ended up an extremely overwhelming experience. I was old enough to be turned on by it, but still I don't think it was something I was even remotely ready to see at that age.
My whole life I've been seeking that same sexual rush. I've been close, but still haven't matched it. I wish I would have saved that "first-time rush" for a real-life person.
By the time I actually had real sex, I was burnt out on the concept of sex from porn at an early age
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My first time seeing porn I was about 7. My cousin showed it to me. I didnt really care. I understood sex I grew up in the country for awhile afterall. The only sex I saw that really affected me was cat sex cause let's me real that shit is super rapey. So idk. Guess its diffrent for country kids and city kids. I just thinks kids should have access to that element to witness at there own pace. To see a part of the real world. That life isnt participation trophies. Its rough and ugly and scaring. Helps you grow. Then again I'm not exactly the parenting type so maybe I'm missing something. Probably am.
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Sex is part of evolution, it's a part of life, it shouldn't be a big thing that needs to be kept a secret or in the dark. I just happen to think, if people put as much thought into doing something productive as they do with thinking about sex then maybe life would be a lot better and efficient
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Yes and no. They have kinda fucked me up. And a lot of other guys. It's tough because it can be great or horrible depending on your situation and how it affects you. I don't think porn is wrong to produce or immoral or anything I just think it's a drug that can, and is often misused. Overall, even with as many O's as its helped me to, I wish I had never seen it.
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I dunno I have mixed feelings about pornography.
Personally I don’t watch any, even as a teenager I wasn’t that interested. I think it’s very addictive to some people, but some people just have addictive personalities and I guess being a porn addict isn’t ‘as bad’ as being an alcoholic or a drug addict.
I’ve heard some people argue that porn lowers the urges of people to go out and sexually assault/harass people, and if that’s true then hell yeah to the porn industry. Even though I think anybody with those urges should be mutilated and eaten anyway
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