I don't think being introverted and socially reserved is the same thing as being awkward and lacking in social skills, AT ALL. You seem to be socially adept enough to identify the type of person that can draw you out of your shell, and that's a good first step.
I think it's fairly common for introverted people to get on well with extroverts- see Meyers Briggs pairings. I'm an extrovert, and a lot of the people that I'm closest to are introverted...although I'm always surprised when they tell me that they're usually very quiet because apparently I'm easy for them to talk to...mostly because I tend to ask people a lot of questions about themselves and I have no problem filling conversational dead space.
It's good to be aware of what you need in a social relationship. It should help you seek out attributes in others that can help you to open up. Also, if you do find yourself having a hard time with lulls in a conversation, you can always ask people questions about themselves. Most people LOVE to talk about themselves...I find this is especially true for introverted people, as they usually hold it in ;)
It's the best way for an introvert to try get a conversation going and, the more the other person talks and asks questions back, the easier and more relaxed the introvert feels
IIN to be socially awkward and is it something people have to accept?
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I don't think being introverted and socially reserved is the same thing as being awkward and lacking in social skills, AT ALL. You seem to be socially adept enough to identify the type of person that can draw you out of your shell, and that's a good first step.
I think it's fairly common for introverted people to get on well with extroverts- see Meyers Briggs pairings. I'm an extrovert, and a lot of the people that I'm closest to are introverted...although I'm always surprised when they tell me that they're usually very quiet because apparently I'm easy for them to talk to...mostly because I tend to ask people a lot of questions about themselves and I have no problem filling conversational dead space.
It's good to be aware of what you need in a social relationship. It should help you seek out attributes in others that can help you to open up. Also, if you do find yourself having a hard time with lulls in a conversation, you can always ask people questions about themselves. Most people LOVE to talk about themselves...I find this is especially true for introverted people, as they usually hold it in ;)
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That is the exact same advice I give to people:
"People LOVE to talk about themselves"
It's the best way for an introvert to try get a conversation going and, the more the other person talks and asks questions back, the easier and more relaxed the introvert feels