Is it normal to be sexually attracted to girls, emotionally attracted to guys?

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I'm in a semi-open marriage with a wonderful woman and our sex life is awesome. Our lifestyle is chill. We have lots of close friends. Everything is great except...

Girls? I'm only sexually and romantically attracted to them but not emotionally. For example: when I meet a cute girl I want to worship her, do all the gentlemanly things, appeal to her pleasure senses, and have all kinds of kinky sex with her, but anything beyond that feels like an act. As if women are merely sex objects to be groomed and pampered. I know that's wrong and I do respect women in many other ways, but the female species simply feels emotionally unattainable.

Guys? I'm attracted to them romantically and emotionally, but not at all sexually. Mostly platonic. I had a few homosexual experiences in my teens and once in my 20s, but it's just not for me. Sometimes I just wish I had some really cute straight or curious guy friends I could hang out with, smoke weed, listen to music, go out for a beer, share deep dark secrets, cuddle on the sofa, watch movies, go hiking, camping, shopping, more snuggling, etc.

So.......is this normal?

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  • sky38203
    9 years ago

    I feel the same, but opposite...(i am a girl) i am sexually attracted to guys, but emotionally attracted to women.

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  • Shrunk
    9 years ago

    I'm like this too and I'm a girl... I love men because they are so much more interesting to me but Im not sexually interested in them whereas I am for girls but cannot imagine a serious relationship with a girl... I guess the technical term (for your case) " homoromantic heterosexual"?

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    I think it's normal.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Personally, I think most guys feel this way. I definitely do atleast. I can have female friends so it's not entirely like you explained for me but guys just seem more emotionally rewarding? That's the only way to describe it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I did generalize a lot. I do have quite a few platonic female friends but they're all tomboys. Go figure.

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  • timetochange
    9 years ago

    I wish I had male friends like that. I would love to be able to fuck one once in while but it be cool to act like that with out them thinking it wrong.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I only tried once in my 20s but we were both straight/bi-curious at the time. A mutual "boytoy" of my ex primary girlfriend. We had no idea how to give head so we agreed to "just the tip". It was hot though, even though we were both really nervous and sober the whole time because he was in recovery. He was cute as fuck though and about the same age. But so straight! SO straight! He made me cum even harder than I made him cum. Sorry if that's TMI. I'm new here. Guys are so hot sometimes, why can't I just get into it? Women are crazy but their bodies are like a five star buffet. I can't help it. I'm still a dude. Girls are so delicious! AAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHH!!!!

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  • ThatLeoChick
    9 years ago

    It is 100% completely normal. There are acually LGBT+ terms for this.

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  • woodchuckgra
    9 years ago

    Dude, I feel you, only in the opposite way. I am a homosexual that can have a physical relationship with either sex. If there is a hole I don't mind filling it. However, emotionally I am diverse. There is an anecdote I once told a straight friend to help him understand me. We have a mutual friend that has a limp. He is totally my type, tall, thin, salt and pepper hair at 25, with decent self esteem. He makes me mushy inside. I think he is HOTTTT, he is not gay and not interested in me, but I would eat him up if he would let me, the limp is all the more sexy, a female in the same position would just be a gimp and not worth talking to, unless she wanted to let me hit that for 45 min or so, then not bother me again...

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Yeah, all I really wish for that I don't already have is a girlfriend I don't have to love and a boyfriend I don't have to fuck!

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  • ArayaLioness
    9 years ago

    I think its' something that I haven't heard before. I would consider you something close to a homosexual (in emotional relationships) pansexual (in sexual relationships), but you aren't sexually interested in men. I can make it a stronger argument if you're into transgenders.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Not into transgendered or transexuals. All of my sexual fetishes and fantasies involve women. All kinds. From petite feminine innocent looking shy girls to full figured butch lesbians. Women are awesome. So intriguing. And so much smarter than us. But on the flipside I've never been able to get aroused from other men. It never moved past kissing and touching, even if I was attracted to them. I feel like I need girls and guys for different reasons.

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      • ArayaLioness
        9 years ago

        Sounds like an oddity to me. There doesn't seem to be a category for it.

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