I think it is normal, especially if I look at it from your perspective where you had someone personally threaten you online. I imagine that it can be extremely traumatic.
Although I don't fear a man coming after me personally with intentions to cause physical harm or damage my property, I take on similar behavior when a man displays any interest in me. I fear he will become aggressive and cause me emotional discomfort, so I start ignoring. It happened to me just around a month ago where a guy from an engineering class ignored my signals to leave me alone. I snapped at him a few times, and he still doesn't get it. I fear going back having classes with him this coming fall.
Some men find me very attractive and come on too strong, and I do the same as you; I pick up the avoidant behavior right away. I have someone I'm interested in, and I believe there's really no reason to feel bad being avoidant soon as they start acting flirty with you. If he already knows you're in a relationship, he's not making a good judgement call with showing interest.
Thank you for your post, it makes me feel better! I was wondering if I was being too mean because of the selfish reason that I'm scared. But I guess there's no other way to do it with out causing more conflict. Glad I'm not the only one!
IIN to be paranoid that guys who like me will become obsessive?
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I think it is normal, especially if I look at it from your perspective where you had someone personally threaten you online. I imagine that it can be extremely traumatic.
Although I don't fear a man coming after me personally with intentions to cause physical harm or damage my property, I take on similar behavior when a man displays any interest in me. I fear he will become aggressive and cause me emotional discomfort, so I start ignoring. It happened to me just around a month ago where a guy from an engineering class ignored my signals to leave me alone. I snapped at him a few times, and he still doesn't get it. I fear going back having classes with him this coming fall.
Some men find me very attractive and come on too strong, and I do the same as you; I pick up the avoidant behavior right away. I have someone I'm interested in, and I believe there's really no reason to feel bad being avoidant soon as they start acting flirty with you. If he already knows you're in a relationship, he's not making a good judgement call with showing interest.
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Thank you for your post, it makes me feel better! I was wondering if I was being too mean because of the selfish reason that I'm scared. But I guess there's no other way to do it with out causing more conflict. Glad I'm not the only one!