Is it normal to be incest victims -survivors

I am a 61 year-old ordained minister. In my youth I was sexually abused by my mother. Whenever my dad would be gone off, out of state or overseas, she would let me have sex with her. No, she did not force it upon me. In fact, she said she was only doing it to take care of my needs. She at least pretended not to be much interested in it personally or even enjoying it, just allowing me to use her body to relieve my adolescent stress. So as a teen I would cuckold my own dad quite a lot in his long absenses.

My wife in her youth was the sexual plaything of some of her brothers. Three out of the five of them had sexual intercourse with her on numerous occasions over the years. She often felt like she was their sex slave or whore. She resented this somewhat but also enjoyed it some. One of the brothers eventually knocked her up, so she and I got married. I did not find out till later on who the father of the child really was. The child soon died of crib-death (SIDS). So we remain childless.

I am interested in the opinions of others about our past "sins" and experiences, though I hope you will show some decency and kindness by not putting us down and making nasty cracks. I know that is all too common here. I am not lying, but if it makes you feel better to disbelieve my story, then feel free. You will anyhow, no doubt.

Anyways, please let me know what you think about this.