Is it normal to be in this kind of a friendship?

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We 3 have been friends since 10 years, but I have never really felt comfortable around them. The other two are friends since 14 years, I joined in later.
10 years ago.. I had a fight with one of my then friend so I started hanging out with them for a while and a few days later i got to know (I overheard them) that they dont like hanging out with me so i politely told them that its okay i wont annoy them.. but since they felt bad they apologised to me and we started talking a lot after that.. 10 years passed but I still feel they dont want me.. and i feel so because whenever I want to share anything with them they act uninterested and it does not feel that they really want me around.. I have done a lot..stayed around with them in their darkest time..I love both of them but sometime I feel so helpless and so lonely.. and also it feels like they think I am dumb and stupid.. they dont really consider me when they talk something serious I dont know why..
I have an abusive father and its like living in hell.. I try and tell them but they never seem to care and I always start to feel they are getting annoyed when I talk.. I have other wonderful friends too but I somehow dont feel right telling them about my situation.. its so depressing.. In school too they used to sit together And I, behind them but they occasionally talked to me and rest of the time I just used to sit there.. I feel like a loser around them.. I am never comfortable.. this happens only with them not with my other friends.

I have thought of discussing this with them but I think its just too late.. And i might ruin a little that I have..

[ sorry for the long post :)]

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  • _ItsScience
    6 years ago

    Those friends are not worth your time of day. I should know, I've had friends like that. But once I learned they didn't care about me I up and left. Without word or whatever, because hell, they wouldnt care.
    Best thing to do here is leave them and hang with the friends that actually make you feel wanted.

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  • Alicia-White
    6 years ago

    No, it's bothersome on both ends. Make new friends that will love you. Move on. Don't waste more than 10 years on a shitty friend ship when you can look for a new companion. My real name is Barry and I believe you can change. Xoxo

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  • OroraObelix
    6 years ago

    Yes I agree.. I have been in same situations.. If they were worthy friends you could feel that and you would't think of what you are thinking now... Don't follow them anymore. It is better being alone than have fake friends. I know sometimes you just have to share what you have inside but you have to be sure they are the right people to tell.. If not, then wait, be open to people and the true friendship will come someday :)

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Just start spending less and less time with them, gradually distance yourself and fade away if you want to do so.

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