Is it normal to be in love with someone for four years with no reciprocation?

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When I was 16 I met this guy at work and we immediatly fell for each other. In short we lost our virginity to each other as well, he soon went off to join the military. We lost touch for about a year, then we started talking again and just fell even harder. We began a long distance relationship that only lasted a few months. He came home for a visit and realized he couldn't handle being away from me. He broke it off and I kinda freaked out, anyway, that was two years ago and I haven't seen him since. We talk occasionally, he knows I love him still and I really think he loves me too, by the things he says. But everytime he comes home, he promises to see me and ignores my calls the whole time he is here. Once he is back to his base though, he answers and we talk like nothing happened. He is perfect for me and we have talked about getting married, but I'm afraid when he comes home for good in nine months that he will ignore me. I thought time made you get over things, but two years with out seeing him and I still love him, is that normal?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    I would wait nine months for him to return if you really love him. He could be avoiding you because it's too hard for him to see you and then have to leave you a few days later. If you don't think he really does love you, then try your hardest to forget about him and stop talking to him when's he's at his base, try and meet someone new.

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  • blueboy12
    12 years ago | pl

    Time does help a person "get over things". However, when situations and relationships remain nebulous for a long period of time (particularly when the woman has a high interest level in the man) the feelings tend to become only more intense. This is due, in part, to the lack of resolution to this situation. My advice. Wait until he comes home "for good". See if things rekindle. If he continues to ignore your interest and attempts to contact, move on.

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