At the moment, we are more like a married couple. When we are together we sit at home and watch movies and go to bed early. With the friend we go bush walking and to the beach and go fishing and actually do activities together... I love my boyfriend but things are just boring now, any ideas on how to spice up our relationship? I do not want to cheat and I also think If I leave him for the friend more bad will come out of it than good.
I'm a 32 year old man I've had a bazillion girlfriends and am now in a happy defacto relationship for 6 years, here's my advice.
If your boyfriend isn't adventurous with you anymore it's probably because hes withdrawn within himself.
men do this when they have trouble saying no to a woman and the woman doesn't know what boundaries are important to a man and crosses them by accident by assuming that men think like women.
If you want to keep a relationship with a man alive here are a few pointers I learned from my defacto wife.
All of what I'm about to say ties into one key issue of the utmost importance to men "Freedom".
1. Live a duel life. A lot of younger women try to build a life around a man. Men don't like it, above all else we value personal freedom. The key is to have two lives, one with your man and one with yourself. That way the man can have the freedom that he needs during the time when you are apart. Don't call him during this time or in any way attempt to interfere with his activities during this time. If he feels you are looking over his shoulder the whole time it's the same as having you there in person. Leave him alone and he will come home.....and fuck your brains out.
2. Don't restrict him in ANY way. If you try to restrict a man you may succeed on the surface but if he doesn't leave you outright in search of freedom he will go into his own fantasy world where he can be free from restriction, essentially ignoring you (the source of his feeling trapped). Accept him the way he is or not at all. Your reward will be his loyalty and ravishing love possibly for life.
Don't expect him to behave like a woman.
Women like being enclosed in a warm cocoon, just look at a woman's house. Men like the open road, think motorbike.
But the open road gets lonely and a man does want to be with a woman. But if he can't have both he'll ALWAYS take the road. Weather in the form of leaving you or just ignoring you.
If you can give a man both, his passion for you will not dwindle. you will be the kind of rare woman that all men crave and you will have the power to keep a man passionate about you in the long term.
pretty simple really but a lot of women don't get it, I should charge for this.
Anyway, hopefully this might help you rekindle the flame with your boyfriend. If you don't learn this and you let yourself be seduced by the friend guy, you'll eventually either drive him away or he will morph into a boring guy too.
It's not the guy it's the skill. Give your boyfriend sufficient time without feeling like your trying to control him and he will come back to life again.
Don't just leave your guy. Grass looks greener, reason. If you were to switch with anyone, that'll get boring soon too. Part of a long relationship. Bet, he thinks you're boring also. No, instigation intended or insults to either side, but maybe your "friend's" doing what your man did when he was just trying to win you over, which is, ANYTHING that made you remotely smile. Maybe your boyfriend wants to go or do something you expressed that you hated. He's out of ideas now and waiting for you to come up with something you both could enjoy. Hey, maybe small get togethers and orgies is what you need.
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At the moment, we are more like a married couple. When we are together we sit at home and watch movies and go to bed early. With the friend we go bush walking and to the beach and go fishing and actually do activities together... I love my boyfriend but things are just boring now, any ideas on how to spice up our relationship? I do not want to cheat and I also think If I leave him for the friend more bad will come out of it than good.
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I'm a 32 year old man I've had a bazillion girlfriends and am now in a happy defacto relationship for 6 years, here's my advice.
If your boyfriend isn't adventurous with you anymore it's probably because hes withdrawn within himself.
men do this when they have trouble saying no to a woman and the woman doesn't know what boundaries are important to a man and crosses them by accident by assuming that men think like women.
If you want to keep a relationship with a man alive here are a few pointers I learned from my defacto wife.
All of what I'm about to say ties into one key issue of the utmost importance to men "Freedom".
1. Live a duel life. A lot of younger women try to build a life around a man. Men don't like it, above all else we value personal freedom. The key is to have two lives, one with your man and one with yourself. That way the man can have the freedom that he needs during the time when you are apart. Don't call him during this time or in any way attempt to interfere with his activities during this time. If he feels you are looking over his shoulder the whole time it's the same as having you there in person. Leave him alone and he will come home.....and fuck your brains out.
2. Don't restrict him in ANY way. If you try to restrict a man you may succeed on the surface but if he doesn't leave you outright in search of freedom he will go into his own fantasy world where he can be free from restriction, essentially ignoring you (the source of his feeling trapped). Accept him the way he is or not at all. Your reward will be his loyalty and ravishing love possibly for life.
Don't expect him to behave like a woman.
Women like being enclosed in a warm cocoon, just look at a woman's house. Men like the open road, think motorbike.
But the open road gets lonely and a man does want to be with a woman. But if he can't have both he'll ALWAYS take the road. Weather in the form of leaving you or just ignoring you.
If you can give a man both, his passion for you will not dwindle. you will be the kind of rare woman that all men crave and you will have the power to keep a man passionate about you in the long term.
pretty simple really but a lot of women don't get it, I should charge for this.
Anyway, hopefully this might help you rekindle the flame with your boyfriend. If you don't learn this and you let yourself be seduced by the friend guy, you'll eventually either drive him away or he will morph into a boring guy too.
It's not the guy it's the skill. Give your boyfriend sufficient time without feeling like your trying to control him and he will come back to life again.
Heed my warnings.
Don't just leave your guy. Grass looks greener, reason. If you were to switch with anyone, that'll get boring soon too. Part of a long relationship. Bet, he thinks you're boring also. No, instigation intended or insults to either side, but maybe your "friend's" doing what your man did when he was just trying to win you over, which is, ANYTHING that made you remotely smile. Maybe your boyfriend wants to go or do something you expressed that you hated. He's out of ideas now and waiting for you to come up with something you both could enjoy. Hey, maybe small get togethers and orgies is what you need.