Is it normal to be extremely horny all the time after having been raped?

I was dating a chick awhile ago that had lost her mother while we were dating. She came home and found her mother naked, and dead in bed. I rushed over (along with two of her other guy friends) and offered comfort. I had to drive home later that night, as did one other guy. Turns out she was dating all 3 of us at once...anyway I digress.

The next day she had a sex-marathon with the guy who stayed. After hearing this (and realizing she and I were through) I had asked what possessed her to do it. She was a grad student doing psychology (so I believed her answer) and explained to me, that during super traumatic experiences, our brains aren't entirely sure how to react. Generally, they revert (or crave) something that releases the most endorphins to counter the trauma. In her case it was having a 24 hour sex-a-thon. In your case, I can understand why your horny. Ever hear of someone having a horrible breakup, but one (or both) people still get off to thinking about the other person, even though they hate them? Same type of thing. Its just the bodies way of compensating for trauma.

That's because they're most likely thinking role-play or rough sex. and playing a game with someone is vastly different.

in the game, you've given true consent and your partner has agreed to obey your "signale" or "code word". you might never use it but know you can. and that your partner won't really hurt you.

Thank you for the response (and everybody else, thank you as well)

I don't view the actual incident itself as arousing in any way at all, believe me the guys (there were 2) were utterly repulsive and it's quite painful to even think about, let alone re-live any of the details. I think the bit about wanting to replace a nasty incident regarding sexuality with a pleasant one makes a lot of sense, though.

I had another friend propose the idea that it relates to the whole "fight or flight" response, where we fall back on our more primal instincts, and procreation is a primal instinct, so it might be related to that, as well.

Seeing a therapist is probably a very solid plan. My Father has offered to pay for me to see one, and I fully intend on doing so, if for nothing else but to have someone to talk to that has a lot of knowledge on what the psychological and physiological responses that are common to such a thing are.

I took aikido for 9 years... but a gun was present, and I locked up. I still feel a bit angry at myself for that. I know everyone is going to say I shouldn't, but it's a feeling... and I can't make it not exist. As an outlet, just for getting rid of some physical aggression and the meditative quality of it, however, I might start practicing again.

I really appreciate the insights here from everyone. It helps to have some new things to think about.